My wife lied about the past and showed no remorse.

My wife was previously married twice and she cheated on both her ex-husbands. After 10 years with me, she swears that she wouldn't cheat on me because she has changed. For many years, I was ok with her answer and didn't find the need to bring up the past.

But about a year ago, my wife began to change, she became very dominant and always angry at me. She became demeaning, irresponsible with our finances. And to make matters worse she would hint that I was acting suspiciously like someone who was cheating. For the record, I was in a prior 18-year marriage where I was verbally and physically abused and I never cheated on my ex. My wife knows that fact and based on old friends "testimonies" of me, they have confirmed to her that cheating is not my thing. So, for my current wife to suspect that I am capable of cheating really blew me away.

Here where it gets bad. A few days ago, since I really don't know the reasons why she suddenly changed, my insecurities made me feel she was up to no good and since I didn’t know why she cheated in her past relationships, I began to inquire. My warped reasoning was that I would have some kind of a reference point, to see if I was behaving in a manner that would justify in her mind a reason to cheat and treat me badly.

I asked her 4 simple questions...1. When did the cheating started in her past marriages? 2. Why did she feel she needed to cheat. 3. How many times? 4. And, did she love her ex-husbands?

Although the questions angered her, she did answer the questions...what really bothers me is that I found her answers to have inconsistencies in them based of past when I probed, she re-answered and re-answered, changing her answers and finally offering what I now believe is the truth. Maybe!

I asked her why she lied to me now (2017) about the past, (pre-2007) before eventually telling me the truth? she said that she felt uncomfortable telling me the truth. But the fact is that she lied now about something that happened years ago. Why should I believe anything she says now about our relationship? The worst thing that I can't find myself bringing myself to forgive is that she has “no remorse” for the fact that she just lied to me before eventually getting to what "could" be the truth.

Can I trust her with our future if she is still capable of not telling the truth.
Part of me believes that she is a closet or "covert" narcissist because she shows no remorse or empathy for what I am feeling and she makes me feel that I am wrong and need help.

Lastly, she says that her acting towards these last few months was my fault because I was depressed and not carrying my weight around the house. But I said, why didn’t you tell me this a year ago and her answer? “You were depressed I didn’t want to seem selfish to point out that it was affecting me.” Huh!?

AM I seeing things??? am I over reacting? Please Help!

Asked Oct 24, 2017
Edited Oct 24, 2017
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