My 6 year old daughter has a bad attitude, HELP?

7 months ago myself, husband and our 2 daughters got evicted from our home and had to move in with my step mother. Since weve been here my 6 year old daughters attitude has gotten really bad. She back talks, every thing that comes out of her mouth has a sassy attitude tone. She argues with me about everything, and when I mean everything I mean EVERYTHING. If I ask her to pick up her toys, she always moans and complains, chores, ha thats out of the question because she takes all day complaining about picking up something that would have took maybe 5 mins. When my stepmom gets home from work or family comes over her attitude escalates very quick, and she knows shes doing it because she gives me this cutting eye look because she knows I will not snap back in front of everyone. Discipline is not my strong point, I guess because im young my self (24). Please I need advise on what to do because its getting out of hand!
MandyB0421
Asked Jan 25, 2017
I know that can be very difficult to handle. I have children myself so I can understand the complications that come with it. Something I found to help was from www.jw.org. This is an excerpt from that site.

Take the lead. Your child will not accept your role as a leader unless he sees you taking the lead. So, in a balanced way, you need to assert your authority. In recent decades, some so-called experts have made the word “authority” sound harsh. One even calls parental authority “unethical” and “immoral.” But the alternative—permissiveness—can leave children feeling confused, indulged, and entitled. It does little to prepare them for responsible adulthood.—Bible principle: Proverbs 29:15.

Employ discipline. One dictionary defines discipline as “training which produces obedience or self-control, often in the form of rules and punishments if these are broken.” Of course, discipline should never be unreasonable or abusive. On the other hand, it should not be vague or inconsequential, leaving the child with no incentive to change.—Bible principle: Proverbs 23:13.

Be clear. Some parents merely ask for their child’s obedience. (“I would like you to clean up your room—OK?”) Perhaps they feel that this shows good manners. That tactic, however, can put the parent in a submissive role and leave the child free to weigh the pros and cons of the request and then decide whether to comply. Rather than abdicate your authority, give clear direction in the form of statements.—Bible principle: 1 Corinthians 14:9.

Be decisive. If you say no, stick to that, and present a united front with your spouse. If you have decided on a consequence for disobedience, follow through. Do not get embroiled in negotiations or endlessly discuss why you made a decision. It will be much easier for your child—and for you—if you just “let your ‘Yes’ mean yes and your ‘No,’ no.”—James 5:12.

Be loving. The family is neither a democracy nor a dictatorship. Rather, it is a God-given arrangement in which children can be lovingly guided toward responsible adulthood. As part of that process, discipline will teach your child to obey and help him feel secure in your love.

I hope you find this helpful. You can visit www.jw.org for more articles like that. It is a Bible based website. If you go select Bible teachings and then select couple's & parents.
here2help
Answered May 15, 2017

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