ANY time there is an issue involving your child, you should go to court. By not showing up, even if nothing changes, at least for the moment, it will look very bad on the part of either parent who doesn't show up. I have a friend who was given full custody & the father has ZERO visitation because he lives several hours away now & can't hold a job due to medical reasons & isn't able to afford a car, gas, etc. He didn't show up for court on multiple occasions & eventually the judge said if he can't make arrangements, when he knows the court date WELL in advance, he had no right to have custody or even visitation. Not saying your situation would ever turn out that way but you should never ignore a court order or hearing when it involves your child.