What drove my now ex bf to do what he did?

My now EX boyfriend and I were together for a year, living together for 6 months. Since moving in I found out he had an extreme cocaine addiction which I was trying to help him with, with the help of his family. He lost his job and his life seemed to be falling apart but I didnt want to leave him. His goods points made me stay and try to help, deep down he is a good person he just seemed to have lost himself.

Last week I went on the computer while he was sleeping and found out he had been watching porn every single night while I was sleeping, and made a fake facebook account pretending to be a woman. This facebook account looked like a beautiful but provactive woman seeking females, and he had HUNDREDS of inboxes asking women to see their body parts. He also liked pornagraphy pages and others things such as.

I confronted him on it and he said it was like porn to him. I feel like he cheated on me. I am an attractive female and have a lot going for me and feel like any man would be lucky to have me. I was also there every night to have relations with, but he would wait for me to go to bed so he could go on this fake facebook page and try to find porn-esque looking women.

I obviously broke up with him over this. He says he didnt ever physically cheat on me, but, this is just as bad or worse.

I told him if he ever wants to be with me again he needs to get counselling for his addiction habits. I know I sound pathetic, but I thought he was the love of my life and I imagined getting married and having babies with this man.

The day I kicked him out, he begged and pleaded with me to give him another chance, that he would change and get counselling and prove to me he could treat me right. But I told him firmly that we would not be together any time soon- not until he proves that his s*it is together and he is actively seeking help for his addictions.

I have not heard from him in two days, but he still has all of our pictures on social media and "In a Relationship." I have deleted any trace of him on mine.

We are 25 and 28 years old. We have both had long-term relationships before.

I just don't understand the fake facebook account? Clearly he is an internet predator? Can anyone help me to understand this? Am I better off walking away, althought I hate to just give up when I know he has so much potential.

Please help, and try and be understanding. Thank you so much.
ayanajesor
Asked Feb 26, 2015
He is a drug addict. When people become drug addicts they lose themselves and it is hard to see or explain who they really are.

If he wants to get better, it would take time as these issues are not so easily resolved.

So you will have to wait and see how it goes. You can talk to his counsellor from time to time about how he is doing.And don't get your hopes up because nothing can be said right now about the two of you together.
Jane16
Answered Feb 26, 2015

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