My boyfriend wants to marry me, but he wants to be a priest, what do I do?

My boyfriend and I love each other very much, we've been together for almost 3 months and we are going to get married next week. The only issue is that he wants to be a priest. I've known this since we started going out and I've always supported him, he told me that he's felt called to the priesthood since he was 10 years old.

He talks of God often, how he wants to help more people hear God and that he wants more people believe and have faith. He talks fondly of wanting to be a priest and often helps me with my questions about our faith and God.

We are in love with each other and I can tell that he is really conflicted. I'm 14 and he's 38 years old. Yea I know what you all thinking. I'm into older men. Lol. Anyway, i'm going to be a freshmen next year and he's a medical student. He tells me frequently that he never wants to leave me because of how much he loves me....yet he still talks of wanting to go to seminary.

He has mentioned an idea of me living with him as his house keeper when he's a priest, but I couldn't do that...I want a family and kids someday. Something which he wouldn't be able to give me.

This leaves me feeling a bit conflicted, as well as my boyfriend being conflicted too, I don't know what to do and neither does he. We're both torn about what we want from life. Any suggestions on what I could do? I figure that hearing someones opinion who is neutral may give me a bit of help in this situation....
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Asked Oct 06, 2014
Edited Oct 06, 2014

but on the behalf of the situation not looking at age I would not date him, just due to not knowing what each other wants! I would give im space for him to find out if he is really going to be a priest, because if he is He would not be able to be seeing you anyways. And if you both are religous which I am you both should know RIGHT from WRONG! especially him Also I would not take Spiritual advise from him!

Just my opinion your only 14 you have No idea what your missing hes a total diffrent generation you to would never be able to understand eachother in that way and if you want kids get someone younger cos by the time you want a family hell be to old to give you one and hell prolly die and leave you to raise them alone!

All in all leave him pleaseee!!!!!
Answered Oct 06, 2014
Edited Oct 06, 2014
If he was really religious and believed in God then he would know that what he is doing is wrong. You are so young, you have no idea how silly this really is. You barely know someone in 3 months. I'm 24 and I wouldn't marry someone who is 38. You living with him and being a maid? That makes no sense. The only time men make offers like that is when they want a booty call. I really hope you are not having sex with this guy. I will be praying for you. Did you end up getting married? I doubt it. This guy sounds shady.
Answered Dec 04, 2014
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Answered Dec 09, 2015

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