I'm a 17 year old girl who's needs some advice

This might sound a tad strange but, I have started to realise that most of the people that I know (who are in my age bracket or a few years either side- I'm 17 and I''m a girl) are either in a relationship, have been in one or have chemistry with people (you know, when relationships are just starting and theres chemistry) and I've never been in any of those categories. I don't understand really because I'm around guys a lot and I'm sociable and I've been told I'm quite funny and pretty so I don't know. I talk to my friends about their girlfriends/ boyfriends and it sounds so much fun to be in a relationship. I've never even kissed a guy. I was talking to my friend who's brother just got a girlfriend and the brother talks to me about their relationship (not in great detail thankfully) and it makes me feel like I want a boy to talk about me that way and I want him to pine after me and want to be with me. I don't know what to do or think. It makes me feel sad and alone but I feel uncomfortable asking this to people who I know and I could never do it face to face because ever since I was little I have been very outgoing and this could completely change the way everyone sees me, and not a in a positive way. please help because I don't know what to do.
Anonymous User
Anonymous User
Asked Jul 25, 2014
Edited Jul 25, 2014
Haha I'm in the same boat you are! Except I'm sixteen and a half. But anyways, sometimes it bothers me too. I have gone out on a date before, kissed a guy in FIRST grade (which doesn't really count), but yeah I know how you feel. I'm also pretty outgoing ( not the most talkative person in the world, but definitely not shy), I've been told I'm pretty, funny, fun, and friendly, by a lot of people. I used to be really botherd by this though. I would watch some of my friends with their boyfriends, and think WHY DONT I HAVE ONE. And truthfully, I was more outgoing and knew way more about guys in general then they did (hence my name tomboy1614) I'm sure you've had numerous pep talks from your folks and friends about just staying in the "friend zone" with guys. And to be honest I agree with that now way more than I used too. I was recently studying abroad for 10 days and REALLY got close with this guy (he's from America by the way) and I really wanted to take a step up...but I realized I didn't WANT a relationship yet. I was just happy being friends with him. I think he felt the same way. Anyways, all I'm saying one of these days you and Iwill have our turn. I'm thinking we will have a real special guy one of these days...one guy every girl will want to have and because we've both been patient, we will earn it. I don't know lol. But hey just stay strong and focus on what's important to you; sports, art, etc. I know this is kind of long but I haven't done a long pep talk in awhile lol. hang in there.
Tomboy1614
Answered Jul 26, 2014
Oh, and keep in mind if you feel left out about not experiencing things yet like some people have...keep in mind that there ARE a lot of girls out there who haven't yet. Not just you and me. I know soooo many other people. I'm perfectly fine with waiting for someone I truly care about

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