How do I tell my mom that I want to move in with my dad?

I'm 14 and I go to both if my parents the same amount of time each week. I have to go to my moms on Mondays and Thursdays and every other weekend. So I'm with my dad Tuesday and Wednesday and every othe weekend. I like living at my dads so much because he act like a normal adult and his girlfriend and him literally never argue. On the other hand my mom and step-dad fight all the time and scream at me and my brother and literally treat us like slaves. She was the worst mom ever. She walked out on us on my fifth birthday. My dad has primary custody of us but I'm still required to see my mom. Any advice would help. I know that it is normal to have chores but you don't always have to fix your parent food or make up their bed an clean their room. It's not normal. My mom is also bipolar and refuses to acknowledge it. Her parents disowned her because she treated them terribly and is awful to her sister. They tried to get her help but she denied it. She makes up own versions of things that have happened and gets angry when my brother and I tell we what actually happened. I'm also a straight a student and I rarely get in trouble and my mom still accuses me of having sex and doing drugs. She also tells me I'm fat. Idk if I actually am or not but I'm tired of hearing it. I don't want to stay there and I'm tired of switching houses. I want to stay at my dads so I can live a normal life and invite friends over. I'm actually really terrified of my mom because she screams and she has slapped my brother twice. My step dad has also threatened my brother because he yelled back at my mom. I don't know how to tell her without feeling like I'm going to get murdered. Please any advice woul help. Thank you.
Asked Feb 28, 2014
Do you think you could ask your dad to tell her? Or at least have him there for moral support? Or do you think it's better if it's just the two of you?

Would your brother go with you?

Maybe you can soften it a bit by saying things like how you can't get along with your stepdad.

Best of luck, whatever happens. I hope it works out for you.
Answered Mar 06, 2014

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