How do I get away from toxic people but still show them love?

I have recently discovered that I am my family's scapegoat. They have basically cut ties with me since I got engaged and then married last fall. It was all on their terms. When I didn't submit to their will they more or less disowned me. I still love them but I need to set the boundaries on my terms. How do I do this, while trying to handle the situation delicately because I am hoping someday we will have reconciliation? I am also concerned that one of my younger siblings may be next in line for the scapegoat position, which makes me reluctant to cut them off completely. I feel an incredible need to protect my younger siblings and I want to stay close enough to be able to see what's going on. Please help! I am a firm Christian so any advice from a Christian perspective is much appreciated. Thank you!