Can someone please explain this to me?

My boyfriend and I are 17 and both of our parents are putting up huge opposition to us spending the night together. It would be more convenient cause he often has to leave early cause his mother won't get him and won't let him walk in the dark and we've even said he could sleep in a different room if they'd really prefer that.

We have been together for 7 months, are fairly serious and have sex often, we talk a lot and are both happy.

My mum knows we sleep together, I'm on the pill, which I am very good about taking, and I am fairly sure his mother also knows by now that we have sex. Part of my mums argument is that she wouldn't want us staying here cause I have two brothers (a twin, and one that's 20) and she worries they would be uncomfortable. I've spoken to both of them, and they seem totally fine with it, they like my boyfriend and trust our judgement.

Why are our parents so against us spending the night together. I discussed it with my mum a few months ago and we agreed it was too soon, but I feel like now would be a good time and would benefit my boyfriends and my relationship because we're both very busy and often struggle to spend any decent amount of time together.

Long description, I know. I just want other peoples perspectives, I'm struggling because I like having my freedom so this is very frustrating. My mother gives me a lot of independence, his mothers is more restricting, but this somehow seems like something that freaks out both of them a lot. I'm trying to understand why.
Anonymous User
Anonymous User
Asked Apr 10, 2013
Edited Apr 10, 2013
if they already know that your having sex then there should be no problem with him staying the night. maybe they are just over protective.
Answered Apr 16, 2013
Let me try this again from a different angle...

Your parents obviously trust you. That's why you have as much latitude as you do now. Try trusting that your parents understand things that you don't understand... and you don't understand that you don't understand. Just trust them that they are making this decision in your best interest even though you can't see what they see.

They took a leap of faith with you. Try doing the same.

If you want to spend the night with your boyfriend, grow up, get educated, get a job, support yourself, and do it under your own roof. Your parents are well within their rights to object and prevent you from doing it under theirs.

By the way, you should use condoms in addition to the pill. I have both of my lovely little sisters because my mother got pregnant twice while on the pill (and she's a medical professional and knew to take them perfectly). I have lots of friends who got pregnant with their kids while being on the pill....
Answered Apr 16, 2013
Edited Apr 16, 2013

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