Can social services make my girlfriends mom call the police on me?

Can social services tell my girlfriends mom to call the cops on me if I have any communication with her daughter. I am 18 and she is 15 my girlfriends mom is ok with it but she is scared that both of us will get in trouble. I know it's illegal to have sex with her daughter but that's not happening.
Asked Jan 09, 2012
Social services are free to advise the police of anything they believe to be illegal and so is your girlfriends mom. Whether or not they do that is their choice. There is nothing illegal about an 18 year old associating with a 15 year old if the 15 year old's parents have no objection. If they object and nothing criminal is taking place, the issue becomes one of the parents controlling the child. If the child is a ward of the court, social services might possibly be involved in that.

It is wise not to start off a relationship on bad terms with her mom. If you can't get along with her, it puts your girlfriend in the middle when her relationship with her mom is for life. Respect her feelings and your chances of a lasting relationship are greatly improved.
Answered Jan 09, 2012
Edited Jan 09, 2012
You really need to understand the laws in your state. Some would argue that a crime is taking place if there is any romantic component in the relationship at all, whether or not you're having sex. Some consider "dating" a minor to be a crime called soliciting a minor. In some places, being under 16 requires stiffer penalties and enforcement. You need to know exactly what the laws are in your area.

If at some point you tick off the mother or the daughter, someone could have a change of heart/mind about how ok they are with things and pick up the phone. Then you're out of luck.

There's already tension with her mom. Her mind is not at ease. She's afraid of what the court/social services has to say about her role in this. What do you do the day she wakes up and decides the "right" thing to do is call social services or the police?

Do you want to be in that kind of a situation?

If you were my son, I would do my best to convince you to stop seeing her because the potential for danger for you is just too great. There are tons of 18-year-olds out there. There's no need to take this risk.
Answered Jan 09, 2012

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