Why am I so awkward and shy around people I have known forever?

So, most of the time, I have a really hard time talking to people, even my best friends. It feels like they're judging me, and I have to be careful what I say, if that makes sense. It makes school really hard, too. Like in Spanish class, we do a lot of pairing up, and I'm reluctant to go find someone, and the teacher has to find someone for me to be with, and it's really embarrassing. And in Science, when we do labs,even though the teacher picks our partners, I always get scared of who I'll be put with. It's so bad, I won't even hang out with my friends, and I rarely leave the house. I'm fourteen, shouldn't I WANT to be social?
I guess, to sum it all up, I'm not good around people. Is there something wrong with me? How do I get over my fear of interacting with people? AM I the only one who feels like that?
erikastriker45
Asked Apr 26, 2011
Actually you act like I did when I was your age. You might be an agoraphobic, a person who is literally afraid of people. Or possibly a social recluse.

The way I got over it was to find people who were just like me. Trust me there are hundreds of us out there. When I met them I they had the same problem I did. So basically what I'm saying is try to find people that understand what it's like to have the problem you do.

Another way is to tell yourself that you can move past this problem. You won't let it control your life. Try to make a goal everyday to maybe talk more or get out more.
night_angel
Answered Apr 26, 2011
Edited Apr 26, 2011
dont afraid from people...be freemind person...u still small and if u wont get over ur fear then ur fear will grow as u grow...so dont take tension be free with everone and try to become strong and try to talk with people...Dear this is not big problem so dont worry at all......u think 1st that wht u r..u r not less than others ...so think tht I m right person and good...be free....
mona
Answered Oct 09, 2011
You aren't the only person who feels like that. I'm not good with people that much either. The closer I get to someone the more further away I seem to get, if you know what I mean. When people are kept at a distance everything is fine and it's not really awkward. But as I get closer to people and know them more I feel like everything changes and things become awkward. I don't know why this happens. I stress over this all the time. I try hard not to but I can't help it. But don't stress over things like this. I know it's easier said than done but really don't. Even though it seems like everything around you is hell you definitely have someone who loves you. There is at least one person who does. Life is life. School is just a phase. You'll get over it and things will get better. Trust me. God has a plan for you. But here's some tips to help you get over your awkwardness. I don't know if this will help at all but it's just something to keep in mind then. :) When having a convo with someone you aren't the only one talking. Don't stress yourself out by being the only one talking. Having a convo requires at least two people so the other person you're talking with should pitch in too. Also, don't try to fill in every silent gap with senseless talk. Doing this might make things even more awkward. There's times when silence is the best thing. But don't make the silence last too long cuz then that's awkward. Also, make eye contact. It is SOO awkward talking to someone who doesn't make eye contact. But don't stare at them. Then they might think you're weird. It's really hard trying to tell you how to make eye contact but just don't think about it much and it'll come naturally. Just know that when you talk to someone look at them. Don't look at them with fiery intensity though. I'm not an expert at this and I also have "being awkward" issues but I hope I helped. I'll pray for you. God bless .
funfun
Answered Apr 16, 2012
Oh I just noticed that this was posted last year. lol well if you're still having problems I hope I helped. :) haha
funfun Apr 16, 2012
No....m der too. I too have a similar problem wd me....I rly want to get rid of it. Its realy embarrassing at times...
dipsikha
Answered Sep 20, 2015

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