Is it all in the mind, a fetish or a real sexual preference and how should I handle it?

I'm a 21 year old white Afrikaans South African male.While me and my mates would talk about girls, I've noticed they have strong sexual attraction. Here white guys look at white girls. I have had many crushes on girls, but I have never really felt very sexually attracted to my crushes.

I recently went to a place with a large biracial population and I can't tell you how many times I checked those biracial girls out only to notice they aren't white. It kept happening, strong sexual attraction to these girls. I then started looking at black girls with other eyes too! Suddenly I noticed them.

I am not a racist, I have no problem with interracial dating, but here it is a problem. Many white Afrikaans people, are rejected by their families, disowned for dating outside their race. My friends openly joke about the 'disgusting freaks' who date black or biracial girls. When I hinted that I was attracted to a biracial gir, they were disgusted and shocked and rejecting, I had to pretend I was joking.

I love my friends and family. Having my own family someday is my life goal. It would shatter me to disappoint my friends and family who have done so much for me, helped me in all walks of life, by doing something that will lead to my expulsion from my community.

So what should I do? I do find white girls attractive, just not as sexually? Or maybe I have a fetish?

Tolerance to interracial dating here is VERY VERY low.

Thanks in advance!
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Asked Dec 25, 2015

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