Is my boyfriend a jerk or am I crossing boundaries?

Just a month ago my ex-boyfriend was told he has terminal brain cancer and was given a prognosis of 15 months to live. Obviously he is devastated and in shock. We have not talked in two years, however we remained friends after dating. He contacted me and told me the news. Currently I am dating someone else and we are very serious. We have dated now for a year and 4 months. I told my boyfriend and of course he was very sad about the whole situation. My ex-boyfriend wanted to see me and I agreed. Of course I told my boyfriend and he reluctantly understood. I saw my ex during the afternoon. We went out to lunch and that was it. It was very friendly. Out of respect for my boyfriend I did not meet my ex at his apartment, but at the restaurant. (The restaurant was very close to his apartment.) Two days later (today) I received a birthday invite on facebook from my ex two weeks from now. Its a dinner/lunch from 4 to 6 pm with 20 of his closest friends (no guests). I told my boyfriend about it and he is very upset. He says that our meetings are going to become more regular and that it isn't fair for him. He said that he doesn't want to date me at this time, because he can not control his jealousy. All the while my boyfriend is making sarcastic comments about how I can comfort my ex in his time of need. This is absolutely heartbreaking for me. This is especially hard for me because my first love (another ex-boyfriend) died from a drug overdose this past August. I feel like I am between a rock and a hard place. I don't want to be callous to the fact that my ex is dying, but I also don't want to lose my boyfriend. What should I do? Is my boyfriend acting like a jerk?
heartbroken88
Asked Jan 21, 2015
No as a matter of fact you should feel flattered that he doesnt want you around other guys and hes ACtually jealous?. That means he actually cares about you and sees you as important. however, yes accept the invitation its not like its gonna be just you two alone. Plus the guy is dying wth have some respect for your old friend he wont be alive in 15 months please acknowledge all the good times you had together. You do what you gotta do.
Mitch70
Answered Jan 21, 2015
Why don't you take your boyfriend with you to the party .. Everyone wins !!
hope this helped :)
wonderwoman
Answered Jan 22, 2015

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