How long should I wait to ask my boyfriends hand in marriage?

This questions is about a gay couple, two young men. Please do not comment or read on if you have views that may be offensive. Thank you.

(For this I will call my boyfriend Luke)

Me and my boyfriend (Luke) have been together for close to a year, we are in a very serious and committed relationship, which is very hard to come by for gay men.

We spend most of our spare time together, we do all the couple things and more, and most important, my friends love him, and his friends love me. My family love him, and his small family also respect and love me. Luke's younger brother I see as much as his as my own and I care so much for them both.

Luke and his brother have had a background not many would understand which brings our passion and respect in this relationship to a much higher level; although there is 6 years between us, Luke's mental age is much maturer than even mine having to fend for himself for so long. We both have stable well paid jobs and Luke even has his own place.

I see him in my life for the rest of my life, we talk about moving in together, we talk constantly about or future, I know he wants to get engaged and I know he feels the same way I do about everything.

Quick story, I threw him a surprise party recently, where he thought I was taking him to propose to him, he told me he was going to say yes...

But the question is, how long should we wait to get engaged? Especially as a gay couple.

Should age slow down how long I should wait to plan an engagement?
What factors should I consider before getting engaged?
Should we live together first?

Whta do you think?

Thanks to everyone who responds to this,

Asked Mar 05, 2014
if you think he is your soul mate and vice versus then I suggest you do it sooner than later. think about
family your gonna invite to wedding
placement of where, how and when your gonna propose to him...
try moving in together first to yeah. idk if this helps but good luck man IM HAPPY FOR YOU
Answered Mar 08, 2014
I think you should live with him for a moth or two before you ask to marry him but yes do it sooner than later. if you love him for real and want to be with him than ask him! and about age it dosnt matter my grandma and grandpa are 10 years apart and my mom and dad are 5 years, then me and my les girlfriend ^ we are 2 years apart so age dosnt matter if you really love them hope I helped <3 and congrase!
Answered Mar 09, 2014
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