Why don't I feel pleasure during sex?

Me and my boyfriend have been dating 5 years. Well, we broke up last year for a couple of months he had slept with about 3 other girls. I was still a virgin. We had sex three days ago. It hurt a little not that much I bleed a little. But I didn't feel pleasure he came in less than a minute. He said he was nervous e since it was our first time. The second night the same thing happened he came quick and I didn't feel too much pleasure. It's not painful just nothing. He kept on slipping out. he told me that with other ones it was diffrent, he wouldnt slip out as much.He said he felt me a little loose for it being my first time. We concluded its that I got to wet. Last night same thing. Am I getting to wet ? Is he not big enough? Or the positions aren't right for us ? Or is it that it my first times. We've tried missionary, doggy, me on top and me on a counter and him standing but we always switch up because I'm not into it and he doesn't feel enough pleasure. He is 20 and I am 19
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Anonymous User
Asked Aug 22, 2013
Edited Aug 22, 2013
You could not feel pleasure for a number of reasons.
1. He's penis is small.
2. He doesn't know how to make a girl feel pleasure.
3. You just have to keep having sex, you just lost your virginity, it's going to hurt until you widen up the hole.
Answered Aug 22, 2013
You didn't feel pleasure because he finishes before you even got started. Men are like light switches, they can turn on and off quickly. Women are like crockpots. They take a while to warm up, and then pleasure is felt. He needs to slow down and give you some foreplay BEFORE he enters you.
Answered Sep 03, 2013
The first time HURTS for the female. It's okay.
Answered Jul 17, 2015

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Answered Jul 28, 2015
Maybe you need a little bit more to feel pleasure, what turns you on? If you were already turned on at the start of this, maybe he needs to slow down for you.
Answered Aug 13, 2017
It could be a combination of all of the factors you mentioned. You are pretty new to the whole thing... so stay patient and pay attention to your body.. particularly things that you find pleasurable and go from there. You should get your boyfriend to use a penis health creme once a day too. It will improve the skin texture and hygiene of his penis, which makes a big difference when it comes to your sexual experience. A good creme will also contain vitamins that will make his penis function better. I use one of these cremes and it really helps. Just google them. Good luck to you!
Answered Aug 14, 2017
It could also be the fact that you said he cheated on you. It could've just psychologically turned you off
Answered Nov 23, 2018

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