Muslim married female having an affair with married white male what do I do?

I'm a 24 year old married Muslim female and have been having an affair with a white married man 25 years older than me who also has kids. Neither of us are happy with our husband/wife. I was forced into mine and he's just not happy with his wife and hasn't been for a long time. He makes me happy and we love each other. We want to be with each other but I don't know if I'm living in a fairy land and if I'm heading for trouble. I've never been in any other relationship with any men so don't know what the warning signs are, have looked at other Qs n As n a lot of answers people are being called whores and home wreckers. And others are saying how the married man will go back to his wife eventually etc n that scares me. Why because if I leave with this man my family will disown me and won't have anything to do with me. So I will be sacrificing a lot for this man. I know he loves me but I just don't know what to do?? Please don't judge me I didn't ask to fall in love with a married man n we have tried to end it so many times but we always end up back with each other. Please any advice without telling me I'm a whore etc. I feel bad as it is.
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Asked Jul 14, 2013
There is no answer that someone else can give you with any assurance that it's the right one. Both of you have to weigh what you will gain against what you will lose and decide for yourself.

It sounds like you are aware that affairs don't always turn out to be eternal bliss over the long haul. If he cheats on his current wife, you have no assurance he will not do the same with you. I'd bet that if he put the same effort into repairing his marriage as he puts in this affair, things would be different at home.

You should consider that this doesn't just affect the two of you. There are others involved, especially his children, that had nothing to do with the situation getting where it is now. They have a great chance to lose and little chance to gain anything from this. To continue the ongoing affair without the children's knowledge would be a better choice than taking the children's father away from them in my mind.
Answered Jul 14, 2013

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