Am I in love with my best friend who's also a girl?

So I'm 17 years old and a girl, and I've never in my life thought I would have this problem. I've always been straight as a pole, only attracted to males, and had only ever had girl crushes, not girl crushes on other girls. And by girl crush I mean "Oh my gosh, can I just be you" or "you're so adorable, I just can't handle it" or "I just want to be your friend. Can we be friends? Let's be friends". Things like that. Until I met her.

Her name is Sarah, and she's bisexual. I met her sophomore year, 2 years ago. We like a lot of the same things: Avenged Sevenfold, Fullmetal Alchemist, drawing, dogs, blah blah blah, and sometimes it feels like we are the same person. She never fails to make me smile or laugh, even when I'm in the worst mood. She's absolutely hilarious, has the most contagious laugh, and even seeing her makes me bust out into a grin. I had seen her around before and even exchanged a sentence or two but I had never gotten the chance to really talk to her, nor had I been inclined to as I used to be very antisocial. We shared art class and there were 2 other people at our table. When they were moved it was just us two by ourselves, so we became friends; slowly, mind you, but friends all the same. Our friendship grew closer, and when school ended, then summer, then school started again, we were ecstatic to find that we shared a class again junior year. Junior year was pivotal in our relationship; we went from good acquaintances to, for a lack of a better word, best friends. It was the year she confided in me that she was bisexual, and it was the year that I confided in her some of my problems such as constant thoughts of suicide and the occasional cutting, which she happened to harbor sometimes as well. We found out just how much pain that we shared with each other, so it was a big step forward in our friendship. Then one day we decided to hang out.

I can say without a doubt that that day has changed my life, because in the past whenever I wanted to hang out with somebody, I would always get bailed on or the "I'm busy, try again next week" to no avail, so I had pretty much given up on trying to be social with people outside of school. It was a nice relief from the utter loneliness that I was experiencing, coupled with the recent breakup of an ex-boyfriend of mine of 2 years (but that's another story). Thanks to that day, I now have the confidence that I so seriously lack to ask anybody to hang out, and I won't take it as hard if they say no. I had finally found someone who I was absolutely sure was willing to listen and hang out with me. She told me that she tends to choose favorites with her friends, and has told me several times that I am one of them alongside just two other people, so that gives me a great, if not somewhat unfamiliar, feeling to be held so highly by somebody. We've had lots and lots of laughs, have a lot of inside jokes, and a few tears, and if one of us is having a rough time, we know that we have each other's backs.

As of maybe a few months ago, give or take, I started having some somewhat disconcerting thoughts about her; nothing bad, just disconcerting in the sense that I'm uncertain of my own sexuality now. I've had random urges to hug or even kiss her, wondering how she would react, wondering what it would be like to be her girlfriend. She's a beautiful person inside and out, and sometimes when she looks at me with those pretty eyes of hers I get a little hot... :S She's a very huggy cuddly person, so she gives me lots of hugs, whether I want one or not, and we cuddle sometimes, or I'll lay in her lap when we're sitting on the couch, stuff like that (and no, she doesn't like me, because she's told me herself that she's in love with someone else). I really like being close to her. When we cuddle I get a little... well... Turned on, I guess? I don't know how to describe it. All I know is I've never felt this way about a single other girl in my life. If a girl gives me a hug then it's no big deal. I like hugs, so sure. But if it's Sarah... it feels like more... I'm kind of embarassed... and very uncertain.

The attraction (if you could even call it that) is not just physical. I've already established that we're very close friends. I love her almost as much as I do my own family, but I'm not sure if it's love or love. I want her to be happy, and if I ever lost her I would be very upset, because she is the person who near singlehandedly turned my life around from a very dark and lonely place. I've had a lesbian friend of mine joke around saying that we'd make the cutest couple, but I'm starting to wonder if she was actually right.

So now, for the question itself: could I possibly be in bisexual love with my best friend Sarah? :S
Anonymous User
Anonymous User
Asked Jun 15, 2013
Sounds like you are for sure, speaking from experience! You should go for it, sounds like you two have a good connection :-) there's often always one girl we meet or become friends with that could possible be what they call "an exception".
confuzzled15
Answered Jun 19, 2013
Omg don't trip me out
hahahahahhahahw
Answered Dec 02, 2013
Oh my God this is veary similar to what happened to me or I'm tripping balls it was
Never google why you love your bext freind high as fuck because you have a common name I'm gonna cry I hate my life its pretty funny ps blaze it!
ok, wat ur feeling is pretty similar to me...i've almost always thought I was straight but when this new girl walked into my class, my heart started racing and I couldnt stop staring at her. eventually I went up to her and we exchanged names and we became good friends even though were kind of opposite. she sits on my lap even though theres chairs and when i'm lying down she'd either cuddle up to me or most of the time lay directly on top of me and sleep. she loves hugs and closeness and comes so close to my face our noses touch and i'm just so tempted to kiss her...she just makes my insides do a little dance and she always makes me smile. people look at us like a couple on the road because we lace our fingers together while walking (its like second nature, sometimes we dont realize that we do it) she, on several occasions told someone that i'm her girlfriend. and alot of people as if we're together. she's just really amazing and I wanna know wat I should do too....
Beez_In_theTrap
Answered Dec 11, 2013
I know exactly how you feel, I also like a girl and your description fits mine, you should confront her about it its clear its love because all of sudden its not gravity holding you to earth its her, confront her she might actually like you, she might be saying she is inlove with somebody else's to cover the fact she likes you.
This happended to me and my life has never been better we are still together and are in deep love its perfect having someone there to hold you, and you will be able to know exactly what I mean when you confront her:')
krisshan
Answered May 16, 2014
I am experiencing the same thing with my best friend...I love her so much and I don't know how to tell her either...I'm positive it's real.
Hiccupgilbonzo
Answered May 16, 2014

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