Hello :)
I am a 22 year old woman in college. I am half mexican..but I don't look it THAT much..just a little I guess lol
Anyway, there is this guy in my class I (used) to like. I knew he liked me..he would CONSTANTLY stare at me and make excuses to sit next to me in class. We would sometimes have lunch together and we would sit and talk for an hour or so even. And during lunches a couple of times he would make excuses to hold my hand or touch my hand like complimenting my ring or something like that.
The problem with him was that he would NEVER EVER ask me questions about myself. If I didn't ask him questions there would be awkward silence. Like if I asked him, "how was your day" he would just say, "fine" and that's it. So I would always ask him questions about his interests and he would just go on and on about his life. I knew all about him, and he knew nothing about me. It irritated me but whatever. I figured that since he would always want to sit with me and eat with just me, maybe he wanted to talk...so that's why I initiated conversation. I figured maybe he was shy and that would help him get more comfortable...I was just trying to be nice.
So yesterday, I was walking with him to the cafeteria and a few friends. And we were talking about spanish classes and I told him, "oh yea, I remember you told me you speak some spanish because you lived in Southern California."
And he said, "yea, I know spanish, but I am trying to forget how to speak the language on purpose."
And I said, "why would you do that? It opens a window of opportunities to talk to more people that speak that language."
He said, "because I hate talking to people that speak that language...I hate mexicans, I find them annoying, and I never want to talk to people like that."
I was PISSED! I said, "so you think I'm annoying then? I'm mexican."
He said, "well.... you do ask me a lot of questions."
I said, "What?! At least someone does! I'm just trying to be friendly and get to know you. You never ask me anything!"
He said, "I'm an open book."
I told him, "well from this moment on, I will never ever ask you a single question again."
we were with a group of friends when this happened and we all sat together and he purposely sat across from me. I was talking to other guys and ignoring him..but he kept asking me questions for the first time ever!! Questions like, "what car are you thinking of buying?" or "how is your meal?"
And I just gave him short answers...he could tell I was mad.
Then there was an activity later that night and I was in charge of it and he showed up early and sat near me alone while I was setting up the decorations and he was just staring at me but wouldn't come up to talk to me.
I just really need to know opinions on what the heck is going on in his mind. Why would he say this? How come he would act like he likes me in class and at lunch together and yet he would say such horrible and hurtful things?? I'm seriously upset that racism still exists. Why is he doing this?? I don't like him at all anymore ....and I worry he will sit next to me again tomorrow in class....I really don't know what is going to happen. Should I be rude to him? Should I avoid him? What should I do?
Sorry for writing so much but I am pretty upset right now. I really liked this guy and he hurt me so much. THANK YOU <3
I am a 22 year old woman in college. I am half mexican..but I don't look it THAT much..just a little I guess lol
Anyway, there is this guy in my class I (used) to like. I knew he liked me..he would CONSTANTLY stare at me and make excuses to sit next to me in class. We would sometimes have lunch together and we would sit and talk for an hour or so even. And during lunches a couple of times he would make excuses to hold my hand or touch my hand like complimenting my ring or something like that.
The problem with him was that he would NEVER EVER ask me questions about myself. If I didn't ask him questions there would be awkward silence. Like if I asked him, "how was your day" he would just say, "fine" and that's it. So I would always ask him questions about his interests and he would just go on and on about his life. I knew all about him, and he knew nothing about me. It irritated me but whatever. I figured that since he would always want to sit with me and eat with just me, maybe he wanted to talk...so that's why I initiated conversation. I figured maybe he was shy and that would help him get more comfortable...I was just trying to be nice.
So yesterday, I was walking with him to the cafeteria and a few friends. And we were talking about spanish classes and I told him, "oh yea, I remember you told me you speak some spanish because you lived in Southern California."
And he said, "yea, I know spanish, but I am trying to forget how to speak the language on purpose."
And I said, "why would you do that? It opens a window of opportunities to talk to more people that speak that language."
He said, "because I hate talking to people that speak that language...I hate mexicans, I find them annoying, and I never want to talk to people like that."
I was PISSED! I said, "so you think I'm annoying then? I'm mexican."
He said, "well.... you do ask me a lot of questions."
I said, "What?! At least someone does! I'm just trying to be friendly and get to know you. You never ask me anything!"
He said, "I'm an open book."
I told him, "well from this moment on, I will never ever ask you a single question again."
we were with a group of friends when this happened and we all sat together and he purposely sat across from me. I was talking to other guys and ignoring him..but he kept asking me questions for the first time ever!! Questions like, "what car are you thinking of buying?" or "how is your meal?"
And I just gave him short answers...he could tell I was mad.
Then there was an activity later that night and I was in charge of it and he showed up early and sat near me alone while I was setting up the decorations and he was just staring at me but wouldn't come up to talk to me.
I just really need to know opinions on what the heck is going on in his mind. Why would he say this? How come he would act like he likes me in class and at lunch together and yet he would say such horrible and hurtful things?? I'm seriously upset that racism still exists. Why is he doing this?? I don't like him at all anymore ....and I worry he will sit next to me again tomorrow in class....I really don't know what is going to happen. Should I be rude to him? Should I avoid him? What should I do?
Sorry for writing so much but I am pretty upset right now. I really liked this guy and he hurt me so much. THANK YOU <3
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