Am I REALLY bi or just a fake werirdo

well Ive been straight/bicurious since I was seven or eight... then earlier this year I got really sorta depressed and had REALLY low self confidence cause I was like I may as well try girls cause no guy could love me anyway ... does anyone else ever feel like that or is it just me being weirdd and does that even count ?
Anonymous User
Anonymous User
Asked May 14, 2013
I think your feelings are a result of your physical and emotional development. Lets assume you are a teen..(teen boys develop differently than girls) then you are going through all kinds of changes in your body. All of the physical and emotional changes plus responsibilities will cause all of this to happen. This is the stage where kids try to figure out who they are and who they like. I believe what is important at this stage is figuring out WHO you are. Don't feel bad most people go through what you are experiencing. They just never verbalize it. don't do something stupid that you will regret later. don't say stuff that you will regret. don't be in a rush to get a bf and don't after girls when you are not really into them. You have to love yourself first before you can love others or you will have problems later on. Boys come with their own set of issues. know and be true to yourself.
mkay, and you need to start putting stuff in the answer box cause your advice is too good for you to have a reputation of 5.
LG2159 May 17, 2013
Ok. I will do that. Newbie here:-)
Thanks LG for pointing me to use the answer box.
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A couple of questions for the anonymous user...are you depressed because you don't have a bf? Is that why you are turning your attention to girls? This suggests to me that you are not bi but rather looking for companionship and willing to take it from whom ever offers it. This is dangerous and could get you or the other person hurt. If you hook up with a girl but you are not really into girls but she is. Then a guy comes along and you dump her for him she will be hurt. Then it turns out that the guy stop liking you because you are pretending to be bi. Now you have a big emotional mess on your hands. I think you want a bf because the boys you hang around aren't showing any interest and you are settling for girls. Don't ever settle for average or for something you don't really want. You will never be happy. A caterpillar never comes out the cocoon before its time. It's stay there to develop and later become a butterfly. If a chicken comes out of the egg too early it will die quickly because its not fully develop. Don't rush to get a bf or settle for a gf. Anything worth having is worth waiting for. in the mean time work on you. know yourself. what are your weaknesses and strengths? get a hobby, play sports, develop healthy friendships (boys and girls). help somebody in need. play games, work hard, get enough rest, do stuff that makes you happy. Have fun. It will help your self esteem. Praying works too! The guy will come. Just be patient. You may not want to hear this but some matters of the heart you cannot rush. Keep your head up :-)
ilovebutter
Answered May 17, 2013
Edited May 17, 2013
I (the anonymous user, lol) think that is EXACTLY what happened the depression to bi thing, I mean. Thanks for clearing things up cause I was worried about where this would lead. You are right. :))
LG2159 May 18, 2013
Take my advice and get to know yourself first. Be true to yourself. Develop good work habbits. Don't procraatinate :-) This way you will not be an emotional wreck when the bf comes and by way of circumstance you breakup. (This is a whole different story and it does happen). I am going to assume you are in High school...do you know most HS relationships don't last? Why? Everyone there is going through some form of development. Most kids go their separate ways after graduation. Lets contrast this to college. As this stage you are a young adult and more mature to handle to demands that come from relationships. I see HS as the place to get build good friends and focus on the task of getting into a good college. It is the place to develop good study habits and discipline. This will help tremendously later on. Keep your head up :-)
idk maybe boys like u but they dont admid!
i mean im really good at it
but a year a go it really hurted a girl
and I was like NOOOOOOOOOOO
soo I never did it again just ask or something
and for that bi question: your love is were ur heart is.
if u feel love around girls like srange strong love ur bi!
hope I helped-domino
aaron654
Answered May 14, 2013
Aw well im sure there are guys who like you maybe theyre just too shie (dont know how u spell that lol) to say it maybe if there is a guy u like then try to make the first move guys like a girl whos confident. But yeah there definetly has been times ive felt like that. But if u r bi then bé proud :)
FJM12
Answered May 17, 2013
s-h-y :))
LG2159 May 17, 2013
Lol oh yeah :/
FJM12 May 18, 2013
i think your bi. im bi as well and I went through the same thing your going through now. dont worry boys will start to tell you they like you soon after they find out you might be bi. good luck. im here if you need some advice.
babysam
Answered May 14, 2013
Why would they like me only AFTER I told them that? :(
LG2159 May 14, 2013
they will like you because its something about bi girls that boys love.
babysam May 17, 2013

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