I'm confused. I think Im inlove with my bestfriend.

We've been best friends since highschool. It's been 3years now but as the day goes im having this weird feeling whenever im with her, ive read some sites to know if you're inlove or just infatuation, turns out, it was pure love..problem is Im a girl too. I've always felt nervous and shy whenever were together im having this feeling since ive gotten close to her. Also, with her I feel very happy and always at ease. As we get to know each other I found out that she kinda hates bisexual people. I don't know whato do because I can't stop this feelings and its very hard to keep this feelings. I
want to confess either because im scared our friendship would be ruined. Heelp :(
necromanshhhy
Asked May 04, 2013
im Bi too and my best friend is straight and I did confess that im bi to her and she was ok with it! but never told her that im in love with her .. anyway we are kinda facing the same prob here .. so here's what i'm doing idk if that would help..
so here it goes..
1- try not to think of her in a sexual way when you're around her
2-when ever u think of her in a wrong way just try changing your thoughts until u stop
3-don't ever flirt..
and that's pretty much it..!!

and I advice u to tell her that you're kinda bi sexual and u can't help it .. and she would probably accept u for who u are because she's your best friend :))
and good luck I hope my comment wasn't just a waste of time :DD
Vampire7
Answered May 04, 2013
Vampire7 : Thanks for the advice!! I really appreciate it, though I still dont wanna confess cause I know she'll be mad.hehe. And yes, I dont feel sexual about her and I always avert my eyes whenever she looks at me when im looking at her. hahaha

Ps. I hope I could get rid of these feelings cause in the end it would only hurt me.
Well, gd luck and everything :)
N ya I wish I cam get rid of my feelings too.. I wisg I wasnt a Bi.. Cuz even if she accepted my lovve for her.. It would be impossible for us together.. N end up getting hurt. So ya (:
I feel you. There's no point to having a relationship with the same sex. It hurts but it's the inevitable truth. Uggh. I hope I was born a boy, but if I was boy I doubt I'll get close to her like now.
haha,,!!
exactly how I feel..!!
and I did tell my bff that im attracted to her in another way yesterday.. and she again she was okay with it :) but I told her that I don't want that.. so ya it hurts but life goes on :))

so as I told you before you should tell her that you're bi and that you don't wanna ruin your friendship and I hope she'll accept it as mine did :DD
Oh yeah, I have some correction, we were best friends for 5 years now. And I don't think so that she would understand me. Haha, you see.. I forgot to mention something long time ago, I think 2011 was the year. I thought it was just my imagination that she was avoiding me.. she was hanging out with one of our friends I dunno but I kinda got jealous, very. They were so close that I got so mad. But it's not like I showed them I was mad. I just kept quiet and watched. Then I got this text from one of her cousins. She told me that my best friend asked her if she thinks im a lesbian. Fortunately, she said no and that I was just a acting a little boyish(cause im kinda boyish, really).. I dunno how we got together and got close again, maybe from my perseverance. hehe not that im boasting but im kinda sweet. ;)
I'm a straight girl and I don't have any problems with bisexuals or homosexuals ! Don't tell your friend that your bi since you told us she hate's bisexuals ... I will pledge you that she won't talk to you anymore , and I'm telling you that as an experience I've had heard before . The two girls were BB F's they were like sisters if you see them you'll gonna say they never fought together , until one day (Emily) fall in love with her best friend (Sarah) and Sarah hates homosexuality , Emily couldn't hide to her feelings for her best friend so she told her about everything and the way she feel for her . Sarah was shocked and hesitated , she never talked with Emily after that day ! I told you that so you won't make the same mistake and tell your best friends about your sexuality or the way you fell when you around her , believe me she will feel so awkward and weird ... there will be a silence and weird looks full of awkwardness . just don't think about her if you don't wanna loose her as a friend and you can find another girl that is bi but don't tell her about anything .
WorriedGirl
Answered May 04, 2013
Edited May 04, 2013
Worried girl : Then I guess Sarah wasn't a good best friend..!!
because best friends will always accept u for who u are like my best friend did..!!

necromanshhhy : I don't wanna confuse u with to opposite answers ..! but its up to you.. u can't hide it for ever.. and since she's your best friend u gotta tell her.. cuz best friends don't really hide these kinda these stuff from each other.. and good luck with that .. I wish u the best :))
and im telling u from an experience :D
Worried Girl and Vampire7 : Thanks for the luck and everything!! I mean it. You guys helped me alot in this decision thing. . And yeah, Im never gonna tell her, I made up my mind. . I'll just wait for these feelings to subside. You know, we always fought because of some little things but we make up afterwards because we both cant stand not talking to each other. I value this friendship of ours and I want to value this more than the feelings I have for her, I dont want to lose her. But Im kinda having this idea of having a boyfriend.. you know? maybe if I got one i'll learn to be straight or something. hehe just thinking out loud here. ^^ what do you guys think?
hehehe, having a boyfriend is actually a really good thing.. so I hope you look forward to it .. :)
and its normal to have fights all the time with your best friend about stupid stuff, but hey don't u guys just end up laughing every time ? fights just makes friendships stronger :))!!
and I better get myself a boy friend too lol!
I haven't got any boyfriend since birth but some guys are asking me out, 5 to 7 guys maybe, and I rejected every one of em cause I dont want to commit to someone I dont have feelings with. They'll just get hurt being with me. I felt bad but I gotta do what I gotta do and I have to focus on my studies rather than having boyfriends.
you got that right.. I like the way you're thinking :DD !!
I'm sorry I read the whole thing , I just hate the BI thing and when ever I read a question about it I start reading and I always answer " its a sin" n I hate the YOLO thing because there is a second life .. its up there ..Jesus doesn't like that and never will.its not what he taught us .. yea he taught us to love each other but not in this way .. just guys be careful and yes boyfriend is good though don't get so into it .. I mean don't cross the line .. and I'm
sorry if my way was idk rude or something ..but the gay ,lesbian and bisexual issues are increasing :(
Pink_Rubbish
Answered May 06, 2013
Edited May 06, 2013
i kinda agree with ya :DD
altho im bi.. and I found out recently actually .. but that's how we are and we can't change .. I really tried a lot of things to change .. but the answer was always "impossible" so if you have any ideas to help me change.. im ready to listen :))
There is always a solution for everything ..once my friend was just like u guys and she asked me for help I told her to go and talk to the priest he can help u like a lot trust me she went there and now she has a boyfriend soon they will get engaged ..or u can talk to someone u really trust like ur friends or ur mom . Good luck
like I had many boyfriends before.. and i'm gonna try to have a boyfriend soon, maybe the way I feel would change.. right??
and I have no 1 to talk to that's why im tell you guys.. and yeah im gonna try talkin to a priest :))

and ya thx alot :DD
Hehehe ,u had many boyfriends and you're a bi .?!?! Lol anyway yea good
It's wired that u don't have anyone to talk to .. anyhow we're always here for you ;)
haha, that's the point that im bi not lesbian .. im attracted to both -_-!
anyhoww..
i only have my best friend to talk to.. I could never talk to my family about these kinda things cuz we were never that close..!
buttt I can't talk to my best friend in this topic since she's the one im attracted to..!! I don't wanna talk to her in this topic cuz im trying to not feel\think that way bout her and if I talked to her it would sound very complicated .. rightt ??

and thxx a lot.. i'm still new on this site.. and its really helpful :DD

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