He has a rape fantasy. Should I be worried?

I have known this guy for a long time. We have been intimate before, he is dominant but gentle, has never hurt me in any way. He says he loves me and we have a pretty normal relationship. However, he often says stuff like " I was so turned on, I almost raped you last night" or "i have a few beers in me and I feel like raping you." I find it a little weird, but also a little sexy. He also mentions that he likes to cover my mouth during sex and stuff. I don't know what to think about this. Is he just expressing his desire for me and it's pretty harmless? Or do you think this is a red flag?
Anonymous User
Anonymous User
Asked Apr 28, 2013
Bright red flag blowing in the wind saying, "Hello... Hello... I'm a red flag!"

You could try telling him it makes you very uncomfortable. If he doesn't stop, then run. Even if he does, you still know it's in his mind... so that duck is still a duck even if it doesn't quack near you.
skyDancer
Answered Apr 28, 2013
Edited Apr 28, 2013
RED FLAGGGGGGG of course
Ruby_sapphire
Answered May 03, 2013
That's word to your flag, and your flag's red, he's out of his head maybe out of his mind ... :p
LG2159
Answered May 09, 2013
i dont think thats a red flag. alot of men now and days have that fantasy and to be honest I tried it whith my girlfriend and it was the best sex of my life. I saw just give it a try and make a safe word before you do it so he can know when to stop if you need to. good luck
babysam
Answered May 14, 2013

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