My husband blames his mental illness on me and as a result won't speak to me, is it my fault?

My husband tried to kill himself which resulted in him being admitted to the hospital. We have had 1 conversation since then and he said it's all my fault and he does not wish to speak to me. Mind you, his family and possibly his doctors agree with him (I say his doctors only because I would think they would be pushing him to face his issues, not hide behind this excuse.) So could it really be my fault? Now my family and friends vehemently disagree with this, but with so many stacked against me I'm starting to believe I did something wrong or missed something.

If my husband did the most vile things imaginable to me and I chose to attempt to end my own life, it would still be *my* choice. Not his. I don't think you can blame someone for that. Without even knowing the story, I don't know how you could be responsible for his actions. That's just not the way it works. Adults are responsible for their own behavior.

He has clinical mental health issues, and can't think through this clearly. His family is in pain, and eager to pin the blame on anyone else. His doctors should know better!

When you deal with so much craziness, it's very easy to get sucked into it. Try to relax and be kind to yourself through this situation... and trust yourself. Reject craziness as craziness.

I doubt anybody here could make any judgement about right and wrong based on the limited amount of information in the question. Unless you enticed him to do what he did however, it's not your fault. We all make choices and we have to live with what we choose.

The most challenging thing about dealing with people with mental problems is learning that the words they speak are symptoms of the illness, not necessarily how they truly feel. If the people around him are reacting to everything he says as they would a normal person, they have a long, hard road ahead of them.

Your answer is really simple: Just do the right thing. If you are sure you have done that then what the rest think doesn't really matter.