Although you aren't living with him, they still consider him to be a destructive force in her life as long as you're together and he has access to her. They can intervene, and they can take her. I know it must be terrible to feel forced to abandon him when you care for him and he needs encouragement and support now, but given the situation, maybe you have to back away from him until he really, really gets clean. You're definitely between a rock and a hard place, but right now it looks like "the best possible life" for her may not include her father for the time being.
In a way, she's lost her father (at least temporarily). You have to decide if she's going to lose you too.
Answered Apr 11, 2013
Edited Apr 11, 2013
I understand what your saying. But heres the strange part.. they said he would still be aloud too see her though, it would be different if there was no contact but there is so I dont understand why me and him breaking up would change anything. They have messed us about from day one claiminh to help us when all theyve done is made things more difficult than they need to be and its just put extra pressure on us as a family :( they say they are doing whats best for our child but I feel they are ruining her life :( hes not a grubby old tramp you might see in the street. He does respect himself and his appearance, you wouldnt be able too tell he was an addict. Hes a brilliant dad. Our daughter adores him. I feel like they are just doing it because they feel they have too :(
Even if they are contradictory, it seems like you have to play by their rules in order to keep your daughter. I hope everything works out for your family.
Thanks :) he now has a job, and hopefully will be getting a script soon so fingers crossed social will back off :D
