Help I dont want to be known as gay (I am a 17 year old guy)

Well you see my friend and I were at my house. We were talking in my bedroom about gay people. and he said I wonder if im gay. so I asked how would you know. So we went on google and asked how do you know if you are gay. one answer said you have to have an experience. so we decided we would make out and sleep together that night since he was staying over. so we locked the door and started making out. we started stripping and that night we lied down together and made out on the bed we decided not to have gay sex though it seemed like going to far. the next day we woke up and he said ok I think I am gay. I felt a bit of a rush but dont want to be known as gay. so I said lets keep it private so now we have done it three times. he wants to reveal it to everyone now but I dont want to what should I do?
Anonymous User
Anonymous User
Asked Mar 04, 2013
man why did you ask google? google doesn't have all the answers. you should've asked us first. anyway I am glad I found this as you kids are like brothers to me. Please read my answer below. :) take care.
Neither of you are gay. You both decided having gay sex would be going too far, that's the decision straight people make. Its normal to feel a rush while making out with anyone, it doesn't make you gay. Don't worry but please decide which side you want to be on. Its your decision. If you don't want to known as gay (which is another indication you are straight) then pursue the kind of girls you love and have as much straight sex as you can. Since you are likely straight you will feel an even greater rush making out with girls.

Tell your friend the same.
MohitMago
Answered Mar 07, 2013
that's stupidly put
infomer Jun 05, 2013
Not really informer, it's not stupid at all, in fact I totally agree.
Thanks Louis
Umm dude! Really! Your stupid! Ok so I like girls and guys so if I say to a girl that I don't wanna go all the way cuz I'm not ready that means I'm straight!?!? No that just means I didn't wanna have sec yet you stupid twat!
no need to be rude, and it just means they decided something sensible, before they got mixed messages completely
Hi, I'm a girl and just so you know, I think you and your friend were curious. Don't worry, as long as you don't have any more curiosity in your mind. hoped this helped.
LadyAngela567
Answered May 28, 2013
just because you don't want to have sex doesn't mean anything if you really like him and want to kiss HIM then you are gay but that's not bad and if you feel that way towards him but also don't want to date date him than u might be bi. be comfortable about who you are.
infomer
Answered Jun 05, 2013
well you dont have to be labled anything you dont want too , if anyone asks say your undecided but if your sure you are gay , dont be afraid about other people knowing , just be yourself .
shygirl3
Answered Mar 06, 2013
Depending on where you live or how your parents would react to the news, keeping your mouth shut may be wise (although very unfortunate). He can make is own choices, but he'd better respect yours. Make sure that's clear to him.
skyDancer
Answered Mar 06, 2013
I think you are worrying too much about labels that people are going to give you. Society focuses too much on labels that they create. They take words and use them to give us what we believe to be our value as human beings. Skinny, fat, beautiful, ugly, smart, stupid, gay, straight. Instead of worrying so much about what others think take a minute and wonder about what you think. If you think about it, you don't have to even accept a societal label about your sexuality. After all, these are your feelings, so why put them up for subjection? If you live a better, happier , fuller life when involved with a man, then ok. If it is that way with a woman , ok. What they think only matters as much as you think it does. Their words only have as much value and effect on you as you allow it to. So live without labels controlling you, or try. The only label you should wear, is human. Oh, and happy. :)
Jia
Answered Jun 20, 2013
This is funny your letting yourself out in the open already
flower101
Answered Aug 14, 2013
What's wrong with being gay dude? Nothing. I think your friend is gay, but you may be bisexual. Dont be afraid, the longer you hold it in the crazier you will get. People may not like you for it, but hey, FUCK 'EM!
Closedeyz
Answered Sep 13, 2013
This is about how you feel and want. I think you should just give yourself some time to lay down and think things over. If you feel that it was just your curiosity that got the better of you, then fine. If you are starting to feel like falling in love with girls is not your only option, then so be it. Making out with someone would probably make you feel a rush in most cases, you've just got to figure out if you actually liked it and felt good and okay doing it and didn't mind the flat chest. Defining your labels is up to you, not the society. Nobody else has to know what's going on inside your bedroom. If you want to keep going on with this relationship of yours in secret, then your friend should respect that.
queerprincess
Answered Sep 27, 2013
Well being gay is more then google.com can provide. Are you actually attracted to guys? Can you see a world where boys are kissing boys in the hallway at school and no one even thinks about it? If not then you most likely just enjoyed the feeling. But NO ON in the world can tell you if you are or are not. With that being said, discard all comments saying you are or are not. That is your choice. Anyway if you don't want to have the title gay then just stay in the closet. If you want keep it between your friend and stuff. You all should get close, talk about it, and think together. Thanks.
Attorney_Newman
Answered Mar 29, 2014
It's looking pretty likely that you're both gay. But if it's only you two that know what happened, then you're only going to be known as gay by the person you are gay with. Unless either of you tell other people, then its your own little secret, right? Oh, and whoever reads your posts, they'll probably realise you're gay too. But so what? You're not going to burn in Hell for a bit of boy on boy sucky fucky, are you? Go and shag a girl now, and see which flavour meat you prefer. Girls are pretty stupid creatures, but they're an absolute delight to have sex with.
KaliMaali
Answered Feb 19, 2018
dont dont dont! it matters:
what the f*ck ur parnets will do when they find out
what kids at school will think
how this could effect u
and, if ur teachers find out!!!! ( believe me they hear EVERYTHING!!!)

I may be 11 but I just want u to know!!! :)
gingercat20
Answered May 01, 2013
Umm well if he was gay it wouldn't effect his life teachers: so what! There teachers they won't bully him or act diff around him
u know ur no help
infomer Jun 05, 2013
To be honest informer I think that you are just on here to say that the questions people ask are stupid, the answers people post are wrong, and the comments are useless.
Who freaking cares??? If any of those people dont want to accept him for who he is, then they are not the people that should be around h! Including your parents! You shouldnt be afraid to come out because it feels amazing to finally have people around you who accept you for who you are! Being gay is not bad, people are just afraid of what they are not.
love is love, and if they care for eachother more than friends, so what, its not there fault, they were curious. LGBT community are the same as every one else, were all human and have emotions.

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