How to deal with my parents?

I'm so paranoid with my mom. Every time I do sports, I only play only for a year and says stop playing. I getting pissed off, I want to continue playing but she keeps stopping me after one year. It doesn't matter if I'm winning or losing, I like to play sports and simply my mom won't accept it and wants to do the thing that she wants me to do that I don't simply enjoy (like piano). She's so cheap when it comes to buying things, like hello, most things are expensive nowadays, so deal with it and she just wastes 100 of dollars just buying food. She also said I should be chubby because I look better??? WTF Mom really??? And she's so racist on people and thinks that shes the best and thinks that white people are ******, and black people are lazy etc. She also puts me down alot of times.

I don't usually cooperate with my dad well, when I was young, he often would swear at me and punish me by slapping me, holding my neck tight (like he was chocking me), and slapped with a belt. I know its discipline but I remember when he was helping me in a math question, I would get the questions wrong and he like grab my head and try to smack my head up and down and say "Do you understand" in a loud voice. I would often cry and he says that i'm weak and thinks i'm gay.

What should I do? Should I run away from home or what?
larry_jinks
Asked Mar 02, 2013
Ok, what you dad does is not disciple. Discipline is grounding, taking away privileges, etc. Choking and slapping are abuse.

I'm not sure what to say about your mom. The racism doesn't make her stellar either...

But saying "deal with it" when it comes to the expense of caring for a family, is incredibly insensitive and selfish, in my opinion. I think parents owe their children shelter, food, education, and clothing. Everything else (like sporting fees and equipment) is gravy.

Many times, running away is more dangerous that the home situation.

This sounds pretty complicated. Do your best to keep your grades up so you can go away to college to get away from them, or do your best to put yourself in a good position to be able to get a job and support yourself as soon as you can.

Not being allowed to play the sports you want might be unfair, but it's not abuse. Are you currently being abused? If so, can you talk to an adult you trust? A guidance counselor? A social worker at your local social services department? This sounds a little to big to solve on your own. You're going to need someone to advocate for you if you're being abused in your home.

You can talk to someone at crisischat.org to have someone to talk to, help you locate resources, and help you figure out what your best next steps might be.
skyDancer
Answered Mar 03, 2013
I agree with sky dancer
Coolkid281
Answered Mar 05, 2013

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