Dating a 27 year old and im 14

Okay, So I've been dating the most amazing man in my eyes for 6 months now and we have never been caught. I love him a lot and I know he loves me and I know that he isn't just using me. But I've been wanting to know some ways how I could keep this a secret better with out getting caught, And there has been some sexual moments to in our relation ship. I honestly think this relation ship can really work. We are just ment to be. But I don't want him to get in trouble. And I really don't want to loose him. Please help me. But the bad thing is, Is that I'm 14 and hes 27.
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Anonymous User
Asked Feb 18, 2013
No judgments here, but 14 is pretty young to be committing to a relationship and he's risking jail in any state. Even though you think this is true love it could just be a crush on your part. It's pretty easy for a 27 year old to impress someone who's 14. He probably has a harder time clicking with 21+ year old girls, which may be part of the reason he's with you. I'd suggest you take things very, very slow for both your sakes.
Frustrated
Answered Feb 19, 2013
If you really love him, then set him free... otherwise, don't be surprised when he gets arrested because he chose to be a child molester and threw his life away.

There is no way to keep a secret like this forever. Everything has to go perfectly all the time for you not to get caught. That's not likely to happen. WHEN -- not IF -- he gets caught, he's looking at jail time because he is a child molester.

I caught an adult with my daughter, and he's serving a sentence right now. If your parents have any sense, they will do the same. If they "allow" you to be molested by this grown man, then depending on where you live they could also be charged with neglect or some other offense. Depending on the local laws, they could even lose custody and you could be placed in foster care. THIS IS SERIOUS. The fact that you are even in this position is evidence that you aren't mature enough, legally or otherwise, to be doing what you're doing.

When you're able to think clearly -- and get your head and heart out of the clouds -- you'll be able to see that this is dangerous for both of you, and you need to stop this before he gets arrested and has to live as a registered sex offender for the rest of his life.
skyDancer
Answered Feb 19, 2013
GROOOOOOOOOOOOOSSSSS!!!!
Lovelygirl55
Answered Feb 19, 2013
No, sorry. Wait at least until you turn 18 then see if you still feel the same, you are still really young and a lot happens in 4 years. Wait then see how you feel.
r_a_b
Answered Feb 19, 2013
Considering you are only 14 you are young and naive and should leave out sexual relations. If he really likes you he will not care! If you fell this strongly talk to a parent and wait until 16-18 for a serious relationship. Set boundaries and keep in mind that it is illegal and he can be arrested as a sex offender. Think through everything in your relationship and be careful with what is happening! I would definitely talk to a family member!
Appiwi39
Answered Feb 19, 2013
It's okay as long as u aren't having sex, but that's a huge age difference!!! Date someone who's not almost 30! Think about it!!
Lana312
Answered Feb 21, 2013
Edited Feb 21, 2013
U shudnt have spread yo legs, he cud knock u up, then how ya gon hide the fact you datin someone who thirteen yrs older? I mean jus b smart, this ain't smart, idk u but if I didn't care I'd b doin something else, n I can jus tell u this will not b good. Ik it will hurt, but u gotta cut this rlationship off. I'm sorry but for ur sake. Think of it, he is in a way different stage of life! Grown man status, finna hit the big three zero, nah mean? N u haven't even fully physically or mentally matured yet, haven't even finished school, haven't even gotten a license, can't legallydrink, u may b a yr older than me, but u must remember, ur still a littoe girl. Dating someone 13 yrs older, I wudnt even like this idea if y'all was both grown. But y u wud listen to me? Ik as ppl we can b stubborn, but I jus want the best for ya. N I'm tellin u what I think is good for u. But if u do jus have to stay with him, stop the 'sexual moments' as u said, we r not even old enough to fully grasp every concept n factor of sex, it might seem like an expression o love and in the right circumstances it is, but now is not a good time, its jus ruining ur life in ways u might not even see yet. We think were smart, but grown ups r smarter, he can seem to care about u vut really might not give a frick, somene ur age cud pull tht, but his age gives him tht much more experience n advantages over u.
Imconfused
Answered Feb 21, 2013
Ummmm, wow, u kinda stole what I was gonna say, wtf bro? Basically go with what imconfused said, n I guess my work here is done. -_- wow, I've never had someone say everything I was goin to say before I actually got a chance to on here. Wow, jus wow. I'm outdone. Wtf?
Me to -_- lol
zFoKiS Feb 22, 2013
well I was a 13 year old and I confessed to this 25 year old that is now 27 going to be 28 this year and I am 15 going to be 16 next year but I knew this guy for 12 years and he is not a bad guy but my family doesnt like him of course but I cant let him go plus we did have sex and I did sleep with him but we made a promise no matter what happens we will still love each other and nothing will keep us apart but then the cops got involved and he is not in jail and this is the second time we have gotten in trouble with the cops and they said they would interveiw him they already interveiwed me and I told them everything cuz I cant lie im always honest and they had proof that me and him had sex and everything. but I just hope they dont take him away cuz I would be so upset if they did but he doesnt care the only thing he cares about is that I love him and he loves me to also that I will be there for him and everything.
taekwondo671
Answered Apr 02, 2013

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