Help convicting child molester

The police have done nothing. no arrests. I talked to a dcf who my four yr old told in detail what happened and she closed the case as there was nothing more she could do and the other parties dcf case was closed because the gf said she didn't think her kids were in danger(she has two boys aged 2 and 4). We talked to a D.A. who did a hack job an didn't ask my daughter the right names so she had no idea what she was talking about and didn't say anything till the D.A. asked her if any one touched her. Then the D.A. told me they could do nothing as she had to ask her and because there was no witness to the actual molestation and no pictures. I have herd nothing sense and the other parties are harassing my family with false accusations and even stated they would stop if I drop charges. My daughter has been in therapy and her story has not changed. is there a way I can get her a new D.A.? this man was never arrested and all we get is a lousy restraining order that dosnt seem to do anything. my family and I are the ones punished for this grown man licking my daughters vagina. what are my options???

I don't understand your statement, "they would stop if I drop charges." It is my understanding from what you've written that the problem is that the DA won't charge him. What charges are there for you to drop?

This is a very tough situation. I'm sure you are aware by now that the courts are unwilling to pay much attention to a four year old's testimony in absence of any other evidence. The reasons are based on the limited memory development and children being so open to suggestion. If the therapist hasn't talked to the police about it, he/she should.

The standard of evidence for a criminal conviction is, "beyond a reasonable doubt" but for a civil case it's only "enough evidence to convince a reasonable person." That's a big difference. If the DA is unwilling to act, talk to a lawyer outside the DA's jurisdiction about the possibility of suing the pervert. If they should try to get you to drop the civil case, demand a written admission and an apology for dropping it. If you are lucky enough to get that, then take the admission back to the DA.

I'm not saying that will work but a civil suit with a big price tag could provide you with the leverage you need to move it forward.