I LOVE This Girl

So, I know I've got a million questions, please forgive me for that, but I really want to talk to this girl, I'm quiet and nervous, but I've heard from so many people how awesome I am once I open up, most people who meet me love me, so I know I've got something to offer, but I'm not so confident, I try to say something simple to her like hi, but I freeze up. We were just friends, now I have a crush on her. And she's so beautiful and always on my mind. I'm smart, funny, cool, strong, I have a nice body, I think deeply, I'm loving and all that good stuff, I look nice, have nice clothes. Basically I lack nothing except confidence, when I meet someone like this I want to impress her so much I overthink it and don't let my natural personality flow, then I end up thinking about her and everything and instead of expressing the way I feel, I just blank out and catch myself staring mindlessly, Thank goodness she doesn't notice or I hope she doesn't. She has the most beautiful eyes, and her body is perfect, she's smart, pretty, and laid back. She perfectly captures what it means to be lady-like, she's always confident, never loud or obnoxious only calm. I could write a whole book about her beauty. To summarize it in one word, perfection. But between how quiet I am & how many guys like her and aren't afraid to talk to her it seems I have no chance, What do I do? Also one guy I know and hate has a very similar taste in women, since 6th grade (I'm in 8th now) he's liked all the same girls I've liked, our differences: He's white, I'm black, he's fat, I'm not, he's not funny, I am, he looks weird, while many people refer to me as handsome, I'm slightly taller, I'm stronger, faster, have a little hair on my face, deeper voice etc. Basically I see myself with the girl before he could get her, yet he has confidence to talk to her, why don't I have that? How could I get her to go out with me, thanks for any ideas/answers. They're truly appreciated.
Footballisgreat
Asked Nov 03, 2012
I'm sorry, but I only read the first few sentences, I got sort of bored (sorry!!)
So what I am seeing is a boy, who likes a girl who is his friend, he is not sure of her feelings for him but cant stop thinking about her?!
My answer is that you should go for it and ask her out, because usually girls like the boys to take the first big move, you never know, she might like you in the same way! But dont get too caught up about it, if she says no, take it in your stride, dont show any signs of sadness, and your brain will move on soon.
A boy likes me, and I know this because I have a knack of knowing when a boy is flirting, or when he's just being friendly (dont know why?!) and I heard his friend say "Oh my god! Its actually Alisha, I knew it!!" (thats me, I'm the only one in my tutor!) and when they saw me they tried to cover it up saying jokes, haha lol, but the guy suddenly needed the bathroom. I like him, but I have never asked a guy out and dont know how to do it!
AliGBxxx
Answered Nov 03, 2012
Yea I know that it went too long, I just got a little passionate about this topic and started writing as if I was writing a fricking book or something. Ha, sorry I might do that sometimes.
Everything in life has a risk.The only way you will ever get a job is to risk getting turned down. To make the football team you tryout and risk not making the team. My point is the only way you can be sure of the outcome is to not try. If you don't ask this girl, you will never know.

Don't make a big nervous deal out of it. Use your funny personality, smile and ask her if she's seen a certain movie that's popular. Make it a movie that's just come out to make sure she hasn't. When she says she hasn't seen it, say, "I'll pick you up at 7 Saturday night." If that's too strong for you, say, "How about Saturday night?"

The most important thing in dealing with a fear of rejection is to not put all of your eggs in one basket. Don't make it a situation where you only have one choice. Girls are very competitive. If she turns you down, don't worry about it, just start flirting with her best girlfriend. If she likes you in any way, that will get her attention.
Rob
Answered Nov 03, 2012
Thanks, I just arrived here on this site today and I can already see you have a lot of good advice to offer, Thanks bro.
Well I feel ya bro there is this girl well actually there are three girls but one in particular who is just astounding and I never made a move before she moved away.... Sorry that's another sob story for later well since am just as shy and pretty much a younger white not muscular you what I would is after she knows me pretty well I would ask if she wants to see a movie or go one study date with less study and more date
Kiruse
Answered Nov 19, 2012
So lemme give you some advice coz I'm a girl WOO HOO! The first thing to do is add her on Facebook. I know this might sound foolish or somewhat vague, but girls are extremely good at hiding the fact that they like another boy. Just because many boys talk to her does not necessarily mean she likes then.... trust me I have loads of boys talk to me and there's only one boy I like, he likes me but is intimidated by the other boys around me. Don't be! If you're not what we'd say is 'Hot' or 'cute' you can always surprise her by your personality etc. Girls love a guys sense of humour. The best thing to do is get to know her. After she's accepted your friend request starting talking to her. Be like, 'Hey, how are you?'. Now this sound pretty basic, lame and simple in itself but that's a best way to start a convo. A guy on Facebook was like 'sup' to me once and we ended up talking for hours. Use your humour to amaze her. Also please act mature while with your friends or when speaking to her. Don't think that acting like a jerk or an idiot with your friends will 'grab' her attention. It won't..... FACT! Show her that you're not like the other guys who talk about sex, blowjobs and porn all the fucking time and smile at her. Not the pervy smile just casually if you see her looking at you. And as Rob said, it's the fear about being rejected but you've gotta stand up one day. Even if you are rejected let's say, does it matter what the others say? Most of them are pussy's who are not capable of getting a girl themselves but can easily talk about having sex with many of them. Be a man!!
MystiqueStorm
Answered Dec 04, 2012

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