Mother of my child is being selfish, need advice

i have child (5) in USA I have not yet met. I am also not listed on the certificate of birth nor paying maintance for the child. I was removed an will not be able to move back to USA for at least 5 more years, furthermore I now have a family (3 children and wife) so it would cause financial difficulties for me to travel back. I would much like to meet my son but his mother is not willing to come here to my country or send the boy. she refuses to have him fly to me and is now no longer responding to my attempted communications. I wish to have my child come stay with me with either custody or visits how can I make this happen? or is there a way his mother can be made to move closer to me so that I may have access to my child as I am unable to go visit him?

You're saying the mother is being "selfish???"

If I understand you correctly, you were living in the US, fathered a child then got kicked out of the country and you have paid nothing to support the child. Where were you when the child was born? Why didn't you make your case for having your name on the birth certificate back then? Why haven't you been putting checks in the mail for YOUR child ever since?

Instead, you go somewhere else and father three more children so now you are responsible for four. Have you considered that without any support from you she may have "financial difficulties" of her own? That, without your name on the birth certificate, you can't prove the child is yours without expensive international DNA tests?

After all of the above, you expect her to pick up her entire life and move near you at her expense so your irresponsible ass can visit the child? My suggestion is that you think about your contribution to this situation and seriously ask yourself which one of you is the one that's really been selfish. I would also suggest you tie a note to your penis that says, "CAUTION - Using this thing has serious consequences."

You may want to contact a child custody attorney in the mother's city to find out what your rights are in that state.

Also, here is an online resource that looks like it has some helpful info:
http://www.familysolutioncenters.com/child-custody.php?gclid=CKu28abRsbICFQTOnAodtTMA2Q

Hope you will definitely get solution for the Children.