ok, if the guy isn't hard and he's about to have sex, he's not mature enough to have sex. Your friend probably isn't either. Tell her she won't get pregnant. The penis has to go in a little more than once. Plus, I'm surprised you said she's 14 so she can get pregnant. I would hope one would assume a girl can get pregnant before she's having sex. God I hate my generation. I'm 17 and I'm a virgin. Calm down guys, you aren't on jersey shore.