We all have the right to complain... we just don't have the right to make someone else care. When entering into a bi-cultural marriage and producing children, it should be no surprise when the child embraces either of the parents' culture. It's their birthright. Plus, surely there's something about the wife's heritage that the husband appreciates. Try not to take it personally. Expose the child to the best of being an American (not the spoiled "my way is better" part), and she may gravitate towards that culture over time. Ultimately, it's her choice.