What is so bad with a 13 (almost 14) year old and 19 year old dating?

So I have been reading online about 13/ 14 year olds dating and some people have a total thing against it while others dont. In some ways I totally understand that, a 19 year old may try to force sex on a 14 year old then they coould go to jail. But really the guy I like(I think he likes me back) wont do that. We are both christian, so I dought that he will do anything bad. Also, I would never use him to give me drugs or cigs. So what would be so bad with us daiting?

Sarah98

Asked May 21, 2012

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It's not about good or bad, it's about illegal. The law considers a 14 year old too inexperienced to make good choices about dating and sex therefore, they can easily be taken advantage of by an adult.

Ask any adult if they feel they knew enough to make good dating choices when they were 13-14 years old. When you become 20 you will feel the same way. Don't try to jump over the most important learning and development period of your life. Use those years to become smarter and you will benefit greatly.

Rob

Answered May 22, 2012

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I see where you are coming from, but I am 25 and still think the same as 15 or so. I just learned more and grew. Some people do not change their beliefs. I didn't but it took me this long and messing up so much to get the right one. so yeah but good answer

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mysteryshepherd May 26, 2012

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I've always held the opposite view. I've always wondered what was going on in the mind of the child and the adult to make them think it was a safe thing to do.

If he's so Christian, why does he want to break the law? If he's so Christian, why is he acting like a pedophile? It doesn't make sense.

I agree with what Rob said.

skyDancer

Answered May 24, 2012

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I'm sorry but I don't think you get it. He if we started to date it wouldn't be ileagle (at least where we live). It would only be ileagle if we had sex.

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Sarah98 May 24, 2012

What you call "dating" the courts call "soliciting a minor" which is a crime.

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skyDancer May 25, 2012

You two should both understand the legal ramifications of what you're considering, and it sounds like you don't. The law would look at him as a predator and you as the prey. Judges are rarely lenient in this kind of case because they risk political backlash for going easy on pedophiles. All of this is a risky business that could potentially land him in jail depending on how this thing plays out. Depending on where you live, your parents could also be charged with a form of child abuse/neglect if they were aware of the relationship and didn't intervene or report him. You could be removed from your home. The consequences of this "relationship" are severe.

I'm sure it's hard to see when you're "blinded by love," but this can go sooo bad in so many ways. As the saying goes, if you really love him, let him go.

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skyDancer May 25, 2012

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Back in history older men were always with younger girls.
Ex: a 50 years old with a 14 yo or whatever.

I am not sure but most young people are not really mature enough for relationships.

I am not really sure about it, if I was you to be on the safe side not to get him into trouble, I would just be his friend and if it is true love it will work out. I would try to date guys your age because of the laws.

People have everything messed now a days and you have to be careful.

mysteryshepherd

Answered May 21, 2012

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i guess its okayyy if you both really like each other its just that sometimes older people may pressure younger people in to
things they dont want to do

cookie_cakes

Answered May 23, 2012

Edited May 24, 2012

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Don't go out wiv a 19yr old he may seem nice but they change yes they do .... Be their done that. Big mistake .......x

Flora

Answered May 24, 2012

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If there is anything sexual between you two its illegal. Also, this person is an adult, you are still a child. you are still growing and developing and learning. This person is done with that. You still have so much more to achieve, learn and understand.

Enjoy being a kid for once. YOu still have a childhood to fufill.