Dating a married girl that I have loved for ever

I have been in love with my grilfriend cains high school at the time she was dating a nother gay I try to prove to her that I could treat her better. but at the time I did not win her over and I lost hope in ever being with the love if my life. about 6 months ago a friend come to me and told me that she left the gay that she was dating in high school because he was abuseing her. but she had fould some one else and got marride to him but he is vebly abusing her. so I found out where she worked and got taking to her about maybe living him for me so she did and I got her started on the dovorse papers and what not. and then we started dating we dated for about 5 months. she said that she was happy that she was with me that she loved me with all her heart and could not wait to spend her life with me. she told me that I saved her and I made her happer than she ever has been and that I was her true soul mate and I gave her a life that she could love for ever. but about two month ago she said she need a break because she was overwilmed on how much I loved her that she never had some one that loved her this much and needed time and that I was a little to clingy. we talk about 30 days ago and said she would like to be friend because she could not amagine her life with out me in it. I love her with all my heart I know that she is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with and my true soul mate. And she has a doughter with him I found out that she did go back to him and that she put the ring back on but as of right now she is not with him I think that shes living at home again what sould I do

She sounds like someone that is easily influenced by others. It's not just what you want. When you can talk someone into doing something they may not want to do, then someone else can do the same thing.

You need to back off until SHE can make up her mind on what SHE wants.

Just give her some time and space to think about what she really wants. If wants to be with him there's nothing you can really do. I know how you feel tho the girl I was in love with left me for someone else and I was heart broken for a long time. But now I have moved on I never thought id be able to forget about her but time heals all wounds I learned that after my heart was broken. If she really liked you she would also try to think about your feelings and not just her own happiness. So I think you should just leave her alone for a while. If she wants to stay with him then hey there are plenty of fish in the sea my friend :) just go out have fun with your friends get drunk and party life's too short to waste on someone who only cares about there own needs.

Sorry to say... but honestly, the more this develops, the worse it sounds. She sounds like an emotional mess. She needs to make up her mind if she wants to be in her marriage or not. Then she needs to do some work on herself before she gets into another relationship.

I would recommend that you completely step away until she gets it together... and she won't have to get it together as long as you're there getting your heart walked all over being her enabler/safety blanket. Whether she's aware of it or not, she's using you, and you're letting her. I completely agree with Rob. You need to back off completely.

This sounds totally dysfunctional.

I hope you can move on and meet a woman who loves herself enough to work towards emotional health, and loves you enough to fully commit to you and never treat you like a back-up plan.