I'm a girl an I like a girl but how do I tell if she likes me?

Okay so people think I'm straight, I'm not I really like this girl. We play fight alot and she has stayed in my room at uni a few times and we sorta cuddled and she always says she will miss me when we leave. She is a lesbian and says she likes another girl but still always play fighting with me and stuff. I don't know what to do because I really like her and I just want her too like me but I'm so confused. There is definatley tension when we look into eachothers eyes. Please help?

inthecloset

Asked Mar 29, 2012

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It sounds like she does like you. The thing that worries me about it is that you said there was tension between you two. That isn't good and needs to be resolved. However, if you are just going to move away anyway, then I would advise not getting any closer because it will just hurt more in the end.

whocares

Answered Mar 29, 2012

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Maybe by saying "tension" she means there is attraction? And from what she has said here, I understand "when we leave" as "when we graduate and everyone goes in his direction", which does not mean she will move?
I just don't see a solid reason not to make some kind of hint that she likes the girl at this stage.

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nevertheless Mar 30, 2012

No I meant like good tension like when you like into someone's eyes and just smile. It's hard because we don't speak unless we see eachother we text sometimes but not often. It's really confusing because she keeps telling me she's trying to get with this girl and Im just like oh.

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inthecloset Mar 30, 2012

I see. I do think that she does like you, but if she is trying to get into a relationship with someone else, then I think that is a signal to back off a little and see what happens before you do anything.

I said that it sounds like she does like her. I haven't made a factual statement. I agree that there isn't enough to draw that conclusion.

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whocares Mar 30, 2012

Of course, I am not blaiming you or anything. :)
And again of course, we can't know what exactly the situation is, but 'inthecloset' - have that in mind: this girl doesn't know you are not completely straight and moreover - she doesn't have a clue you might like her. So if she is smart enough(doesn't want to end up hurt and with one friend less) and is a good friend (which I see she is), she wouldn't bother you or try to voice her attraction (if there is such) in order not to scare you or anything.
Do you see my point?

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nevertheless Mar 30, 2012

I'm not planning on doing anything I'm too scared too. And thanks that's a very valid point. Guess I'll just leave it an try and get over her. Thanks for the help :(

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inthecloset Mar 30, 2012

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i have EXACTLY the same problem! i'm straight, she likes another girl, and when we have sleepovers we cuddle..

qwerty6

Answered Jan 12, 2013

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What the hell?!?!?! Why would you try and get over her?????? I get how its scary and stuff but if shes definitly a lesbien then you should tell her you like her anyway, even if she doesn't feel the same way. Maybe even if you just said you need to talk to her because you think you might be gay, she might get it. Even if you asked advice on how to deal with being gay she might get it. You've probably already left but giving up is idiotic.
Just my point of view. Ignore me if you think im a twat.

SociallyAwkward

Answered Feb 28, 2013

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Hi, just to let you know I didn't give up a few months After I Posted This Last year I Manned up And I Told Her It Was Unexpected To Her An I Had To Come Home For A Week Because she Basically Rejected Me Then when I Was home She Realised How Much she Missed me And asked me Out. We Have Now Been Together For a Year and we Live Together. Thank You To Everyone For Their Great Advice.
I Got My Happy Ending :-)

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