I used to dispise my dad. It's just because of these reasons that I am over now:
-He didn't pay child support for 13 years (I'm 13.)
-He supposedly, didn't tell our family about me until I was 2.
-He gave my big brother, himself, and his girlfriend everything and me what was left over.
-He barely spent time with me since he worked so much.
-He and my mom were in an argument over some reason that I still don't know.
Again, I am completely over it now because I can see that he still loves me unconditionally. It's a shame that it took me so long to figure it out. I had to get jumped and humiliated at my new school to figure that out. He literally fought for me. He was pissed when he found out that that had happened to me. I love him for that.
My big brother moved out to Florida to go to Full Sail University so it's just my dad and his girlfriend in a huge house. He's always wanted me to move in with him and I never wanted to but my opinion has totally changed. My perspective on life has changed within this past school year when my mom moved me out of my old school which I still hate her for. I see now that my dad is changing and he's trying to win me over, not just for the weekend, while I live out of a suitcase but, permanately. He still has a bunch of secrets that would make me upset, according to my brother. (They upset my brother too so he may be being bias.)
My mom is very bipolar. She has a secret boyfriend that she thinks I don't know about. She barely lets me live, invades my space, and is sometimes rude. When she's not mad she's still barely lets me live and invades my personal space. My dad barely ever has the house cleared from his work life but is very chill. He's a producer so he's always busy but when he's not he's super cool. I just have an issue with his dirty humor.
One thing that's making it harder is the fact that i'm going to have to move again and go to a completely different school 3 hours away. I don't want to leave my friends but, I do want to get away from the ghetto hood place thing and the ghetto kids.
I'm suffering at my mom's and I barely see my dad. They don't get along either. Moving in with my dad will also give me better life oppurtunity. I have made up my mind but i'm scared to tell my mom. How should I break the news to her? HELP!! no funny or phony stupid answers either. THANKS!! @_____@
Hey! im a 13 year old boy who was in the same situation as you, I lived with my mom. We lived in a tiny apartment and she was very poor and I went to a ghetto school, I had problems with my dad I decided that I hated him. Then I decided I wanted to live with him 8 months ago I moved in and on my first night I cried myself to sleep because I missed my old life. Me and my mom would fight everyday and we didn't have a good living situation. But yet I missed it when she would say she loved me and when we enjoyed the littlest things together and her smile and I even miss the teeny apartment. Now I live with my dad and Im pretty miserable. My best recommendation would be to stay with ur mom. I made the desicion because I wanted a better life. But I realized it was just an excuse to runaway from my problems. Don't make the mistakes I made. If u wanna talk email me: firstname.lastname@example.org
Now in my situation that would not be the case I know that living with my dad would be way better then living with my mum and step dad he has always been a complete dick head to me and never respects my opinions and he never lets me live!! BTW I'm an 11YR old girl going into high school next year