I'm 14 and my boyfriend is 18, what should I do?

I'm dating a guy that is 18 and I'm 14. I don't want him to get in trouble. I don't know what to do. If my parent gives approval then is it still illegal?
Anonymous User
Anonymous User
Asked Mar 19, 2012
I am 14 and currentely darung an 18 year old, I live in Canada Quebec. I understand the nunerous risks I am taking although my family nor friends are aware we are dating I do not want to leave him because we care for each other so much. It has been years we are friends and I guess I trust him.he is amazing and nice I do not want him to get in trouble with the autorities because he isn't a bad person and our relationship isn't anything bad we are just enjoying ourselves as young people, without engaging in sexual commitment yet and he respects that! So is it still
**soliciting a minor in this case?
Yes, It's illegal. If he's arrested, charged and convicted, then he will go to jail as a sex offender... and even when he is released from prison, every time he moves for the rest of his life he will have to register with local authorities telling them where he lives. He won't be allowed to live near schools or places where children gather. His neighbors will be freaked out that he's going to molest their kids and try to run him off. He'll have a hard time finding rentals and buying a house. No judge would listen to you if you say you consent to the relationship... because legally you are to young to consent. What you think is dating is a crime called soliciting a minor. If your parents know his age and allow you to "date" they could be charged with child endangerment and you could be removed from their home.

The possible consequences of your actions could be devastating and life long. The fact that you two are even involved in this shows that you both are too immature to properly evaluate the consequences and make mature decisions. People get arrested every day for exactly this crime. It happens all the time to people who are foolish enough to think it won't happen to them. I caught my daughter with an older guy and called the police. He's still in jail because he's being held without bail until trial. Judges are very tough on pedophiles where I live.

If you care about him at all, don't risk his freedom. You both should find age appropriate partners.
skyDancer
Answered Mar 19, 2012
Yes it's illegal, but I'm in the same situation as you are. Don't worry, everything will be ok and you guys will love each other forever.
Oh yea to all da people who think it is wrong it's just a number!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Alright! $$$$$$$ westsidenigga
Westsidehomie11
Answered May 29, 2013
Edited May 29, 2013
i say that if the ages are that close, like if they can both be in highschool at the same time, then the age shouldnt matte. but if youre, say, a freshman dating someone who just got out of college, then that does matter.
singing_girl
Answered Nov 19, 2013
Yeah.. its illegal..
But... I understand your problem.. people talk about statatory rape.? But seriously how is the government. Going to pick two people out of no where.. sense this is done everyday... and I guessing you guys have sex... nobody has to know..and get bc.. to be on the safe side and not just use a condom.. but in my eyes its only a four year differnce.. couples like these are common ... he's not going to jail -___- or getting introuble ... and I know people are gunna comment saying its wrong... well.. what about the 16 year old that married a 54 year old...hmmm that's wrong.. but yeah.. enjoy your relationship..ohh btw if he pressures you into anything kick his ass :p peace out...
AdviceForAll
Answered Mar 19, 2012
Ohh and if your parents approve the relationship.. the age difference really shouldn't matter.. you only life once ...
:) alright... now peace out ...
Whether anybody knows or he's going to jail depends on where you are and how the law is enforced there. "Yea, It's illegal" says that the guy CAN be charged. Whether he WILL be charged depends on how lucky you might be and whether someone gets ticked off at your boyfriend and turns him in. It's not as simple as "AdviceForAll" says.
Rob Mar 19, 2012
I agree! The age doesn't matter at all! It's just a number yall!
Oh @ adviseforall

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