I think shes playing me I dont know

Ok here goes,well ive liked this girl for quiet some time now.she just got out of a 5 year relationship with her ex, then started seeing my friend, I had a gf at the time and things werent working out.So after new years I added her on fb and then bbm we spoke alot and really got along really well.While my friend who was seeing this girl I like was chatting non stop to my gf...so then there was a fight because we chat to each others girls, so to fix it we had to delete each other right,and we all live in the same area.my gf and I ended up arguing then we broke up.A week later she inboxes me on fb right,asking how I am? so I said before we chat are you and my friend over or what?she says yes!So we chat.give her my bbm pin we chatting als good she says lets just keep it on the DL for now..so I say ok fine.that wednesday we go out for dinner. she insists that we go out friday to watch a movie and that I go with her to a party happening on the saturday, so yeah cutting it short, we go to the party. I told her ill drive her car she can drink a lil so we safe from the cops and I told her ill sleep by her or she can sleep by me, she says no I can sleep by her. So we get to her place at 4:00am and I insist on sleeping on the couch. She says no come sleep here, in her room so I follow....she gets in bed then she says I cant sleep on the covers get under......so we lay there and im not a fast mover and I really really like her.So we had sex. the next morning my friend comes to see her... they then spoke outside,I wanted to go outside but she said no.after an hour or two she come in says shes confused so I left.... she deleted me off bbm and fb.I was quiet sad as we had sex now its just over????i sent her fb inbox msgs non stop for about a week or two then she finally responded.I went past her house and spoke to her got her on bbm again spoke lots again took things slow this is when I fell heavy inlove with her again.Two weeks after that she slept by my house met my parents.We had sex again that night and in the morning.she still kept on telling me even two weeks after that she needs time and space.two weeks after that, saturday I went out to a club and never knew she was gonna be there. so I saw her friends husband who I recognized from the party.we start chatting what what.I then see her and see looks so beautiful...she said hi .. she then like avoided me the night until my best friend came which is a girl she's like my sister,the girl I like I see she staring at me????one of her other DJ friends is a little more than just a friend to her I see the way he touches her. so I asked her about it she says they all just very close friends??????????. As we leave we were all gonna to to this other one club not to far at 3:00 am.And she gets into his car so they change plans???????.we all driving in four cars but I suspected something wasnt right!!! they drove right in the front,and I never saw her head so I caught up next to their car and saw her head by his crotch????????????she denied it, that she wasnt there saying her earing fell out and her head was down by her legs. she says im seeing things. I can see she's like still kinda into me now even though I did say harsh words to her,and I even sent that guy an inbox msg on fb, but he doesnt reply. can someone give me advise or something coz im still crazy about her bad???????
shaneo
Asked Mar 07, 2012
This sounds like an ongoing party peppered with casual sex. There has to be an exclusive bonding between the two of you with boundaries about dating and behavior with others to make it into any kind of relationship. None of that exists here. Until she's willing to make some kind of commitment and stick to it, you're setting yourself up for a lot of pain.

Decide whether you want to continue the party or go for something more meaningful with someone who's looking for the same thing. If you decide to continue, at least realize that you can't put any stock in what someone does or says when they've had a couple drinks. Bars are good for socializing and an occasional one-night-stand. That's what you got. If you want something more permanent you have to look somewhere else. Your chance of sparking a meaningful relationship is better in the aisle of a grocery store than a bar.
Rob
Answered Mar 07, 2012
She's trying to have fun, you're looking for the one on one. Keep moving along man, and try to ease up on the 'messaged her nonstop for a week' stuff. Kinda just pushes them away ;)
lp9017
Answered Jun 24, 2012

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