Does my lesbian friend like me? [I'm a girl]

okay, so... im a straight girl and I met this girl in my college class who is a lesbian and we get on really well, but recently shes been acting different and im not sure if she likes me, and now im confused about my sexuality.
1. she touches my leg when we are sitting next to each other or when shes walking past and im sitting down.
2. we always joke about and call each other names like 'your a bitch' then we say 'aw thats so mean' and are like 'aw im sorry' and shes hugs me.
3. we had one of our play fights and college just finished for winter holidays and we woudlnt see each other for a week, she looked into my eyes and said I love you. and I was like wheres my hug she said ' I want to but I cant'
4. when I got back from winter break she was like I really missed you
5. we were in subway and when she came to sit down and go back up she ruffles my hair ( this was like 3/4 times) and I enjoyed it
6. we were in town one day and their was a poster saying ' lgbt" (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transexual,' and she said "aw theyve missed out 'Q&Q" I was like "whats that" she said "queer and questioning, all these poor girls who question their sexuality" and looked at me?
7. a group of us were talking about how this guy at college liked me, I dont think hes attractive and genuinly thought he was gay. and my frind was like 'you'd think youd get someone better looking" or something stupid like that and I thought she was saying I wasnt attractive so joked about and said " aw cheers so im not pretty" and then she said " dobt worry I think your attractive" or something like that.
so yeah... help me!!!
thanks xD x
imsoconfused
Asked Feb 09, 2012
Take your time. Don't rush yourself. If you are questioning your sexuality than what you need to do is wait a while and see how it feels after. She obviously likes you and you like her. Keep her as a good friend until you are sure what you are. She may be the one who can make you realize your sexuality.
whocares
Answered Feb 09, 2012
I agree. Give it time. Just be clear that ur not sure about the whole thing and you need time and you need to move slower. Don t lead anyone on.

But while ur questioning, well make sure you really are questioning instead of being confused because you dont want to hurt any feelings.
BrightStar
Answered Feb 10, 2012
okay, so I should just wait and not act on it?
oh and theres also this guy at my college who everyone seems to think theirs sexual tension between us but I just like him as a friend I think... I dont know! :(
i get butterflies when I see this girl, but none with him?
ah! I cant stop thinking about her :L
and what if I am a lesbian? I mean im only 17 im too young to know what I want right?
and if I am... I dont think I could tell anyone :L my family always joke about gays and that, I dont think they would mind but its embarrasing.
Don't seperate yourself from her but don't get too physical either until you are sure. Just act on your instinct about these things.
If you are unsure about how you feel relationship wise about this guy then you probably shouldn't get involved with him. Give him a lot of time too and see how you feel.
Have you ever had a relationship with a guy at all? if you had then you probably aren't completely lesbian although you may be bisexual.
My advice about your family is to wait (but not for very long) to tell them if you become sure that you are lesbian or bisexual. They will have to accept it one way or another. When you feel ready, tell them. Whether or not they will accept it quickly is up to them and how they actually feel.
yeah, im 17 so i've had a few relationships with guys.
thanks for everything :) x
Be careful with the fam issue. From my experience, it is better to wait until you are sure you know how you identify and you arent dependent on them for support.

It sounds like u arent interested in the guy. Dont lead him on or get involved with him just because other people think it's a good idea.
As for the girl, try not to drive urself crazy reading something into every thing that happens. Try to take it easy. Maybe you should get to know urself a little better before you start to date someone. If you decide to go for it, be patient with urself and ask her to be patient with u too. Explain that u are questioning and u dont want to hurt her.

Dating questioning girls is a pretty risky thing to do. (It's never worked well for me.) She should know what shes up against. Be clear with her about not being sure and dont do anything u arent comfortable doing. Take ur time. Theres no hurry. Believe me, there are loads more girls out there. This isnt ur only chance.
you may like her and if you do then you should try to get to know her romantically
liliblitz17
Answered Feb 21, 2012

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