Is it wrong to question someones sexuality before you become friends with them or date someone?

it seems to me that people nowadays are either gay/bisexual/lesbian or maybe its just the people I meet and they tend to have some type of motive behind befriending me etc.... and then things are f'd up cuz of secrets and crushes gone array. we cant even be friends. this has made me feel uneasy about meeting new people. ive had heartbreak, and pain etc...so I keep to myself, but my fam wants me to go out more, but im like what for, things aren't like they used to be?

I think it's smart to know someone's sexual orientation before developing romantic interest. As for new friends, don't rush into that either. Get to know a person before you take them into your confidence. Watch how they treat and talk about others. See if they have common interests. See how they watch their temper. Also, get to know yourself a little better. Know what your deal breakers are. If you see someone exhibit those, cut the ties. Know what qualities you really want a friend/partner and look for people with those qualities. Look for consistency and be consistent.

... I can relate. I've been there way many times. I talk a lot here because it's anonymous and there aren't any consequences for opening up, but in my actual life, my husband is really the only person that I completely open up to. I have two close friends other than him... one a friend from childhood, the other from college. Then... I guess it's like peeling an onion. The farther out the rings go, the less I tell people. I compartmentalize also. Friends are friends. Family is family. Employees are employees. People from the temple are in their box too. I don't like for my circles to overlap.

I like to keep relationships and boundaries clear. This may seem weird to other people, but it works for me. You'll find what works for you. You'll find "your people."

I agree with skyDancer completely and would add that it's inconsiderate to assume what someone's sexuality might be before asking them for a date. If you don't feel the vibes of a mutual attraction, maintain your friendship until you are sure. That will avoid both putting your friend in an uncomfortable position and finding yourself chasing a dream that will never come true.

~ People should not jugde based on that.
~ You just need to learn who will except you for you.
~ I had this good friend who is a girl.
~ I deleveopled a little crust on her.
~ She told me she was a lesbian, and it doesn't change anything.
~ It turns out, she became one of my most trusted dependable friends.
~ Others will judge her and not knowing her by her heart.
~ People who do that are death inside and you do not need to be their friends.
~ They are people out there like me who do not judge for that.
~ Just takes time finding them. I am still finding my circle.
~ Not sure how old you are, but as time passes you shall find better people and people who are like you. I was shocked to find out who was Gay or lesbian - people I grew up with and had no clue.

***!!!! However I think it's cool, because they are taking a stand. Being who they are and not being cowards! Fighting for the right to be them. "Sigmund Frued, Said something having all the above sexual thoughts and we determine where to go from that." I am not sure how I want to word that right now, but I think you know what I mean. It's been a while since I read about it. !!!!***

How many people died so we can have right?
e.i.
Dr. Martin Luther King jr. Died for Afican Americans to have rights. He died, but now many INNOCENT NON-WHITES HAVE RIGHT. THAT IS THE WORK OF CHRIST. CHRIST DIED SO WE WERE FREE FROM SIN.
KING DIED BECAUSE OF WE TOO ARE PEOPLE AND HAVE RIGHTS,ETC...

Keep fighting, my friend. Be brave and do not let anyone get to you.
because they do not control your faith after death, only your god(s) or goddess(s) do. That is what matters in life. We live for 100yrs and we die.
Why make life harder than what it is? Good luck!