I think I'm bisexual.

I think I'm bisexual. and I think I am in love with one of my best friends who I'm pretty sure is straight. I don't know what to do. On top of that, I'm Christian (more on the unitarian side...) and almost all of my friends (including the girl I love) are conservative Christians. I don't see anything wrong with being bi, gay, lesbian or straight....but I'm just really confused and need some advice.
confusedartist7
Asked Jan 12, 2012
I'm bi and I remember being in your shoes. Just relax and breathe if you can. You don't have to commit to a label or come to any big decisions right now. It's ok to be unsure. Just give yourself time to figure it out. If you need to talk things out, look for a supportive ear, which is probably not your conservative friends.

The best advice I could give you is NEVER fall for a straight girl. Nothing by misery nd disappointment down that route. Take some distance from her if you can and let those feelings pass, and they will with time.

It gets better.
BrightStar
Answered Jan 12, 2012
Edited Jan 12, 2012
Thank you....I understand that my conservative friends aren't the right people to talk to....but at this point I'm not sure my parents are either. That's why I came here. I didn't MEAN to fall for a straight girl....I just did. It wasn't because I said "I think I'm bisexual", I just fell in love I guess. But I will try to get over her....time heals everything I suppose. Thank you so much for your help. :)
My belief: I may be wrong about this, however; the "Bible" is based on subjective thinking. (feelings and viewpoints) Not facts and to my belief that what Jesus Christ said what facts.

Fact: Most do not realize that "Bible" is based on letters written to the churches at that time pd. according to what was going on. Problems, feelings, or whatever. Also people decided what should be put in the "Bible" God did not. God put Jesus here and I do not believe Jesus said anything about things like that. He showed us how to love, respect, live, and didn't want us to hate.

My idea: I do not have a problem with anyone at all. What ever you do is between you and your God(goddess) or (gods). Who's is to say I am right or wrong? Who's to say you are right and wrong? (No human!) Live what is in your heart.

Believe it or not I have a crush on this lesbian, all I can do is be there for her. We are good friends and her last girlfriend turned and dated a guy. So you never know. Just be a friend and watch the "bi" with some people, yet if they can not except you for you, well it's not good. I think all you can do is wait it out and if you can not get the one you want, more people out there.
mysteryshepherd
Answered Jan 13, 2012
Edited Jan 13, 2012
Almost any holy scripture is based on subjective thinking. True, people did decide what to put in the bible, not God. I agree that God/Jesus/Creator showed us those things. I don't think there is anything wrong with being bisexual or gay or lesbian or straight or whatever. I don't believe God thinks so. But many in the Christian community believe so. Thank you for your kind and supporting words. :)
No problem. I am open for the people who have good and caring hearts. I am not judging and wish others would stop. Except people for the goodness of their heart not the little wrong they do which in terms "may not be wrong at all"
The religious beliefs that oppose sexual contact between people of the same sex are founded on the idea that nature doesn't provide receptacles on our bodies for it so it's an 'unnatural' act. Since God created nature, it's seen as going against God's intent.
Rob
Answered Jan 14, 2012
congratulations you're one of the lucky few that can truly see the world with loving eyes. You're going to fall for the person and not the gender or everything that comes with that. I think you're priviliged to be born this way.
If this person truly is you're best friend, you are best to talk it out with them, start bringing up the topic little by little til you feel confident to put it out there. I'm not saying they will reciprocate your feelings but at least by talking it out the tension isn't going to ruin your friendship.
If you can't be open and honest with your best friend then it's likely they're not your best friend.
In my experience you don't get over a true love but at least if you live your life being true to yourself and those around you, you'll be happy.
jh86
Answered Jan 15, 2012

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