I told my girl bestfrined I like her

last night I told a good friend of mine. a girl that I had feelings for her and I wanted to be more than friends. through a text than she texted back right away I dont believe you are you drunk? and so I called her and told her that I was serious and asked her if she had feelings for me. she responded I dont know I dont know. and on and on. so the background of this situation is me and her have been always flirting always saying how we'd look good in a relationship and that were perfect for eachother. an meanwhile this other guy is messing with her head she went out with him before me and her had a 'thing' he treated her like **** but yet she still goes back to him and in my pov keeps me on the side. but she still is always around me..... I DONT UNDERDSTAND I asked her if she had feelings for me and she said I really dont know. I havent talked to her since yesterday what should I do from this point?
jsunset
Asked Jan 01, 2012
From what I know, you got 2 choices.

You can be friends with her. Show her your are sincere, and you really care.
She might see you are the better person.
However she might never see it and you wasted your time.

The other choice is you can just 4get her because she is blind for whatever reasons and seek new girls who are into you.

Also do realize the reason why she might be like this, is because she might have seen people treated like that since a child, so in her mind it appears to be normal.

believe it or not, she might like it. Some people get turned on by fighting or whatever.
mysteryshepherd
Answered Jan 01, 2012
Thanks for the advice, I apreciate it
jsunset Jan 01, 2012
anytime. Just hope it works. never know anymore
You can't do anything to change someone else. You can only change yourself. If you feel you are contributing more than you're getting out, stop contributing.
Rob
Answered Jan 02, 2012
It sounds like she's not emotionally available or cognizant enough to be in a healthy relationship. At any rate, the ball is in her court. There's really nothing for you to "do" except: 1) hang on and wait to see what he next move will be; or 2) move on in what ever way leaves you feeling like you aren't someone's back-up plan.
skyDancer
Answered Jan 02, 2012
Should I text her now even though im gonna see her tomorrow?
jsunset Jan 02, 2012
I'd say no. It seems like she's either not interested in dating you, or you're her Plan B. If you want to be someone's Plan A, stop acting like Plan B. Wait to she what she's got to say tomorrow. Then you're next steps after that should be clearer.
well...... I did exactly what u did a while back.. and I thought I completely ruined our relationship as friends, but it didnt. me and him still arent going out, but we're closer friends than we've ever been, and if the girl you're after is anything like him, she'll come around eventually, u just have to give her time. dont be pushy, just continue to be friends with her, and treat her like a real guy should, and youll be surprised at the result, because even if she doesnt have feelings for u now, a little change on your part could make a HUGE change for her.
fayemarie11
Answered Jan 02, 2012
hope this all helps u
Thank you
jsunset Jan 02, 2012

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