How do I get guys to become interested in me even if I am a boyish girl?

I'm not a hideous creature but I just don't have the "feminine" appeal that most guys go for (I'm skinny, have fair complexion, and short black hair). In any case, I DEFINITELY would not change how I look, think, and feel for anybody because that's who I am and they have to respect and love me for me.
This brings me to the point of inquiry. I think I repel guys because of my strong personality and reputation at school. I'm quite an accomplished, popular, and friendly figure at school (I don't want to mention too much personal info on here though). It's really difficult for me to breach that border where these people are scared of talking to me. I'm extremely friendly, but they're scared of me nonetheless. Ugh, my situation really annoys me. I've been like this for my whole life as a college student. I can't get a boyfriend! Furthermore, just because I have short hair and boyish features, almost everybody automatically assumes that I'm lesbian! GRAAAH! I don't get annoyed easily, but after 4 years of this stupid... game, whatever you wanna call it. I'm getting really ticked off.
pepita
Asked Dec 25, 2011
You have every right to make your decisions on how you look, dress and talk but guys get to decide who they want to date. The question is whether it would be worth it to make some changes in yourself to hopefully change the result. You can't continue to do the same things and expect a different outcome no matter how annoying it is to you. We all make our choices then live with the consequences of what we choose, good or bad.


Rob
Answered Dec 25, 2011
Edited Dec 25, 2011
Certainly, always improve and continue to evolve into the best you that you can be, and if there are any flaws that are truly repellant, fix them... and stay true to yourself... but... It sounds like you and guys who are suitable for you are not crossing paths. Think about why that is and what you can do to change that.
skyDancer
Answered Dec 26, 2011
I should be clearer... change for your own personal growth when you see fit, not to please someone else.
To be honest. I would not change a thing.

Be you and be real.

Be friends will lot's of guys and pick on you think you relate too.

It's kind of funny, because I would give anyone a fair chance to date, but I am not sure where those girls are.

So I need to be friends and get to know people. When I am sure, I will pursue it. I think people are all like that. They have problems dating anyone for any stupid reason.

You are not alone. But you sound cute to me, I am not too picky anyways, but I am sure if you show people who you are. It will come.

Find what your personal gifts are and use them. A guy should notice and come your way.

Everyone told me college would be a good place to meet someone, but I beg to differ. it can happen anywhere.

It's funny how it works.
mysteryshepherd
Answered Dec 28, 2011

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