What does she want?

so I kind of like this friend (girl) but i'm a girl to and I know her since this year,she has a boyfriend ,but I think she is bi and I want to know if she likes me in that way.Here are some things she does : She is very flirty with me,like putting her hand a lot on my leg or flatters my leg like going from
my knee the way up or she flatters my taille or arm and when we watch a scary movie or not a scary movie at all she would hold my hand for the whole movie,or lay donw on me,when I sit next to her she would lay her head on my shoulder or lay against me.. and when she came over to sleep she putted her arm around my weist,laying in spoon posture but not that long though. She also asked if I was bi or gay once but I said no(but im bi)..She says a lot that i'm pretty and she thinks/says i'm sexy and have a sexy body and a lot stuff like that..she also said onces when I asked her what she wanted (to drink) she said : I want you, I want your whole body " with a playfull voice oh and she doesn't do any of these things with her other friend(girl) -that obvious or that much or just not- whos she knows way longer then me and they are basicly bff's,she also says a lot when we are alone:" secretly i'm a lesbian" in a joke tone but all those things I said,she does it more often when we're alone... So does she like me that way or what does she want from me?? Because I like her but I don't know what to do (Don't forget she has a boyfriend) so yeah she really confuses me :s
Anonymous User
Anonymous User
Asked Dec 20, 2011
She might just be curious but I don't think a completely straight girl would behave that way. It sounds like she's limiting her risk by joking about it in case her suspicions about you might not be true. Next time she says something like, "secretly I'm a lesbian." Tell her, "No you're not. If that's true, you'd have stopped joking around and made a serious move a long time ago."

There's no guarantee she'll respond the way you want. Just remember the object is to remove the joking from the equation and have a serious discussion about what's really going on between you. You can't have that discussion unless both of you are willing to put some honesty on the table.
Rob
Answered Dec 20, 2011
I'm sorry, Rob, but I don't think that this would help actually. Such a reaction on a joke would surprise and put off almost anyone under the sun no matter if she likes her or not, if she is lesbian or straight.
I don't disagree about the discussion and the honesty though, but I think it would go much better if it is not as abrupt as you suggest.
An answer like "yeah? me too. what are we gonna do now?" in the same manner as her would suit more properly in my opinion.
The question was, "What does she want?" The only two possibilities I see are that she actually feels attracted to you or she's playing with your feelings. You're choice.
Rob Dec 22, 2011
wait, I'm not the author :D I was just expressing an opinion
I get it. It's OK that you disagree with me, you're not the only one. You should hear my wife. :-)

When you disagree, put up your answer. One of the neat things about Ehelp is that people that ask questions get a lot of different viewpoints. Yours is as good as mine.
Rob Dec 28, 2011
Sometimes girls are just that way. Sending mix singles.

The best advice I can give you is this. Just be her friend and see where it goes. I am sure if she wants you that way she will lead you there. Which it sounds like she is doing. So as far as the boyfriend thing, well if you want to except that as part of it, that is up to you.

I am finding more strange relationships daily. Just go with the flow and see where it goes. I guess just let her know in little cute ways that you like her. As long as you agree with everything going on. Which some people do.

But to me it really does sound like she digs you, so just hang on for the ride and see where it goes. Sounds like you 2 are getting alone fine so just be you.
mysteryshepherd
Answered Dec 20, 2011
Edited Dec 20, 2011

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