I like this girl, but I don't know if she likes girls. What should I do?

I'm bi and I have a relatively close friend that I am really into. I know that she has no problem with same sex couples, but I'm not out and I don't know if she is into girls. I'm afraid that if I tell her I like her I will freak her out and she won't want to be my friend. I know that is a silly thing to think, but it's true.
Potterhead_
Asked Dec 15, 2011
bring up the fact that you're bi around her somehow, see how she reacts. normally when ppl are also bi/lez and I bring it up they'll be all "you're bi? me too!" if she doesn't say something like that, then she's probably either in the closet or straight
aberri123
Answered Dec 15, 2011
You also can start talking about bisexuals and see what she thinks.
Without letting her know you are, so you are protected.

If her views points are good than you most likely can tell her
if it's bad well don;t

Than again some people will talk good about that and if they found out you are than their might think bad, so it's another change to take.

It's in your ball court. I am sure if you talk about it and feel it. It will have good turn out.
mysteryshepherd
Answered Dec 16, 2011
I agree to some degree, but I only want to add - sometimes people talk bad things about something but they actually are just afraid and are trying to hide it by showing negative emotions towards it. so u can really never be sure, haha
Always leave yourself a road for recovery. You could jokingly say, "I don't know if I like girls or boys but if it turns out to be girls, you'd be the first one I'd hit on." If she sounds negative then you can respond, "I was just kidding. I like boys" so nothing's lost.
Rob
Answered Dec 16, 2011

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