Relax. Relax. Relax. It's ok. You don't have to figure this out now. You don't have to attach a label to yourself. No matter what you feel, try giving yourself to feel it. Often trying to force ourselves not to feel what we feel causes even more damage, worse damage. Take a break. Think about your birthday instead. Come back to it when you've been able to calm down a bit and get a little space.
I personally don't believe sexual orientation is as fixed as most of us think. I've known women who were exclusively into women for years, then only wanted to be with men, and vice versa. Sometimes things change. Sometimes they don't. Either way, it's ok. Just relax...
So cool down, don't panic, and when you're ready to come back to this, think about talking to a sympathetic guidance counselor or support hotline.
Also, it could be that you and the guy just didn't have strong enough chemistry, or were too nervous (don't read that as a suggestion to be promiscuous to gather more data!) ... could be a number of things. I identify as heterosexual and I'm married to a man that I fully enjoy being with, but I like looking at womens' bodies more. I don't know why and I don't care.
So just relax and don't fixate on finding a label for anything. You don't have to figure out anything right now. Just let things be. You'll know when you know.
Answered Dec 13, 2011
Edited Dec 13, 2011