In love with two?

Okay. So I have a boyfriend of about 3 years now. Lately we've seemed a little distant and I told him I wanna work on it, he said we would but it happened to soon to see any progress yet. We have a pretty good relationship. We don't really fight or argue, its just he seems a bit uninterested and all which of course makes me feel unloved. But again he has agreed to work on things with me and admits he still loves me and doesn't want me to think otherwise or be disheartened just because of the space between us lately.

Lately theres this one guy. He flirts with me but he's kindve a flirt anyways. We started off as just friends but we have lots in common and I started noticing him flirting with me more than other girls and instead on jokingly calling me hot, he'll be very serious and call me gorgeous. I dismissed it for a while until recently. I asked him if he liked me and he said he did. I told him my parents are kinda strict on dating (they're not) but I was confused and didn't want him to think I didn't like him back.

Now I'm really very torn up. I haven't really made a commitment to the second guy but I still feel like Im cheating or something. I'm not spectacularly happy with my current boyfriend lately, but we have history and I don't want to throw away what we have. On the other hand, there's a guy who kinda gets me and I get him.

I'm not sure what to do. Can you help me reason what I should do to make a decision or fix this? I really need it.

(p.s if it helps at all, my current boyfriend is my first boyfriend because I told myself I would only commit to a guy if I thought he was the one.)

Tell the first one you have met someone else, it's only fair.

I obviously can't know the full dynamics of your relationship... but from what you've written it sounds like the issue is more about you and not really about either of the guys.

From what you've said, it sounds like you aren't ok in a relationship if the other person isn't fawning all over you. It sounds like you just want whoever will pay you the most attention... whoever will fulfill your ego is the "winner."

Also, a relationship at year 3 is naturally quite different from a budding relationship or one at month 1, month 6, year 8, etc. It isn't fair to compare a guy who's trusting you to honor your commitment to him and who has let his guard down and would like to you to be a part of his life rather than the center of it, to a guy who is trying to win you over which makes it SEEM like you're the center of his life.

First, do some soul searching to see if you're being selfish. Then decide if you're committed to guy 1 or not. If so, get away from guy 2 and respect your commitment.

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