Does she like me?

I'm a girl and I've recently fallen for my best friend (also female - I'm bi and have liked her for nearly a year) Up until she found out she was really flirty and stuff, and now she's alot more hesitant. She says she's 100% straight, but so many things don't add up. Like she's jokingly flirty with 2 of our best friends (also female) but my other best friend (a guy) thinks that she's alot more hesitant, and seemingly serious about it with me. For some reason although she's straight, she hasn't put "Interested In: Men" on her facebook.

When I started dating my ex, who was a long time friend of ours she talked to me privately over MSN and asked if our relationship was a joke to hurt her. When I asked her if it was cause she liked him, she denied it and continued to deny it in person to my face. I've just recently realized that I never asked her if she liked me.

We had a day at my house and throughout the day several things occurred. While she's normally very cuddly, I was surprised when after she layed her head on my chest to watch TV that she snapped at me for touching her hair when she never normally does, then as we were playing with my little sisters I tickled her and accidentally groped her breast and she was speechless for a few seconds before she answered that yes I had groped her. A bit later when we were playing a drama game with the kids (having someone pretend that their hands are your hands) she accidentally groped me, and well, I almost moaned to be honest Xd. Then as we were hiding from my sisters under my brother's cabin bunk bed (bed on top, draws and stuff underneath) she licked her lips and was looking at me the whole time.

When I came out to our other best female friend (who's very persistant in knowing who you like) she asked if I liked anyone...I shrugged and said "Yeah". She then asked me if it was anyone she knew. I didn't want to tell her it was her best friend so I said maybe. She then started rambling off a bunch of names from our group, saying the girls name about 16 times within 5 minutes. and when I told her that she was right, her expression was a mixed one between unsure, and something else. This friend is kinda homophobic, and normally she wouldn't have said my crush's name (especially that many times) because she wouldn't want to think of me crushing on her at all, to protect herself from thinking of that stuff I guess. Me and my guy best friend speculated over whether my crush had said something about having feelings for me to her, because she didn't know I liked her when this conversation happened.

She's the type of girl that jokingly get's really flirty and makes her sentences sound dirty on purpose to get a joke out of you, but she's so guarded...You never know if she does like someone, When I told her that I liked her she said that she wasn't weirdened out by it, and that she'd never not talk to me because of it, but now she's distant and...kinda avoiding me it seems...I haven't made any moves besides responding to her joking flirtation, and allowing her to snuggle up on me (which is that cute that I can't not let her) and now I can't even get a text from her... I don't know if she likes me, or if she hates that I like her, or if she's confused about herself or what. I don't want to ask her again because I don't want to piss her off...Any advice to have her either admit to it, or make it clear in my head that she doesn't like me? she's 16 and I'm 19 (Our group at school was a mixed grade group - that's how we met) so no incredibly sexual comments thankyou:) thanks

Two things:

First and most important--You're over 18. It's too risky (and illegal) for you to date someone under 18. Although specific laws vary state to state, states consider "dating" between someone of legal majority (you) and a minor (this girl) to be a crime called "soliciting a minor." Having any kind of sexual contact with her is a crime called "statutory rape." These crimes come with prison sentences and lifelong treatment as a criminal sex offender after release from prison. You need to understand that if her parents got a whiff of this and didn't like it, they have the right to call the cops and have you arrested. I'm a parent who called the cops, and had a guy arrested. This guy is going to jail for several years. Parents do this all the time... and if her parents are the least bit homophobic, you're playing with fire and dynamite. I'm just not sure why the seriousness of this kind of situation is lost on most people, honestly.

Second--Never hope for anything with a girl who says she's "100% straight." It's a mind f***. It ends quickly and badly, and you spend a lot of time guessing and trying to read hidden messages, much like you are now. Relationships are difficult enough without all these games. Move on to someone who's over 18 and sure that she's bi/les.

By the way, I'm married to a man and haven't put "Interested in Men" on my Fb. I just don't think it's anybody's business or something I need to proclaim online. That doesn't mean anything.

And another thing... YOU decide when you want to answer a question. Just because this chick asks you the same question over and over doesn't mean you owe her an answer. Even if the police ask you a question repeatedly, you have to right to remain silent. Get in the driver's seat.

I second the don't settle for less. There is no good reason why you should miss out on a fun time of your life or not get close to a girl who wants to be with you. Don't think that there is only one person for you. There are many people out there for you. I'm not saying be a tart, but don't play the martyr/unrequited love bit either.

I'm bi. Take if from me. Steer clear of "100% straight girls". it is a mind f*^$.