Im full lez but

my dad is agenst bi lez and gays and he hates me being lez and he wants to change me so what do I do? be me being full lez or make my dad happy not mad?????

OK, I don't like the answer I'm about to give you, and I'm sure others won't like it either...

In a perfect situation, I'd tell you to wear your pink triangle proudly and wave your rainbow flag high and all day long, and tell him about PFLAG.

But you're not in a perfect situation. You're far from it. It sounds like you're in a very dangerous situation. So I'm going to tell you to be concerned with your safety first. Presumably, your family has a restraining order against your dad because you're afraid of his violent behaviour. Also, you said he went psycho when he saw your facebook group. It doesn't sound like it's physically safe for you to be out at this point in your life. So go back in, at least in your physical world. That sucks! It's not fair! It's not right! But again, your basic safety is what's most important. It doesn't sound wise to add more fuel to this fire.

For Facebook, unlike all the lgbt groups. Set up a second fb account, perhaps in a different name. Block your dad and all your relatives who are on fb. Use that account to like lgbt groups and interact with other lgbt youth. Run your browser in private mode when you access that account. Clear your cookies when you log out. Don't let your computer/phone store the password. Being out virtually sounds much safer than being out actually.

Despite the enormous pressure of your family difficulties, try your very best to stay out of trouble and get good marks in school. Get into a good college that has lgbt clubs. Wait to be out in college where/when it's safe.

In the meantime, talk to a supportive guidance counselor if you have one. It would be helpful to have that as a support option because it will most likely be difficult for you to hide that part of who you are for now.

I'm sorry. I HATE this answer. But again, your physical safety is what's most important right now.

We've had this debate here before and I don't want to restart it but it is my belief that every young person should think a long time before making announcements about their sexuality for the following reasons:

1) Your sexuality is a very private thing and you don't owe an explanation to anybody except your most intimate and supportive friends or family.

2) Your family and friends are more likely to to accept it if you give them a lot of time to suspect than if your announcement is a complete surprise.

3) In the development process sometimes we get ideas about ourselves that we later find to be untrue.

In my view, there is almost no benefit to making such announcements to a family that may not understand and lots of risks. I realize this doesn't do anything for ayyyy but it's something to think about for others facing the same issue.

well......u cant exactly change inside but u could act like it if it gets to hard.

There is not a lot that you can do about it truthfully, he seems to have his views firmly set in place; the best thing you could do at this time is give him some information on support groups such as PFLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbains and Gays) and just give hime some space. Parents have a hard time accepting that ther children won't have the future that they planned for them, sorry but it is true. :-(

just tolk with him about this and let him know that your not gonna change about you're self anything so you know what to do now