What is wrong with me?

I've never been successful when I talk to women in real life. I'm not sure what the problem is. I've tried everything I can think of, and nothing seems to work. I've been told I'm cute, so I don't know why I'm so repulsive. I'm 29 years old, I'm running out of options. I guess there really is something wrong with me.

I was under the impression that those things didn't matter, but they really do. If I'm not tall enough, I don't make enough money, something. I actually find those profiles of women who are 5'3" or less say they will only date someone who is 5'10" or taller hilarous. I really do.

It is easy to say you want trust and honesty and all that you really want is someone who is self sufficient, loving and caring, doesn't cheat or play games, is family oriented, has a job and goes every day, someone who has all these qualities and more, someone just like me, but I found that that is just not true.

I have officially given up.
I have given everything I have to give, but for all my effort, all I got was heartbreak. Chivalry is dead, and nice guys finish last, if ever.

Expect nothing. If you have no expectations, you will not be disappointed. I don't have time for broken hopes and dreams. I have a daughter to focus on. I would rather spend my time with her than continuing a fruitless search. I don't have much hope that I will actually find the one I am suppose to be with.

I was looking for someone to spend the rest of my life with. My best friend. I wanted to go to bed with the same woman every night and wake up with her every morning. I was hoping she would like to cuddle, especially when we sleep.

I don't want someone who will try to change me into what they want me to be. If I let that happen, then I will no longer be me. I won't try to change you. I was hoping to find someone who loved me for me, tattoos and all, but that doesn't seem to be the case. Some of us are suppose to be alone.

Even so, I will not settle. I don't want a relationship with someone who lies to me or cheats on me. I don't want things thrown at me. I won't be talked down to or degraded. No relationship is worth that.

I always wanted to get married and have a family. I wanted to do all the things that most people get to do. I wanted to be there for all the small and important events in their lives. That has been my dream my entire life. It sounds like such a simple thing, but for me it doesn't seem like its going to happen.

I can't believe how stupid I was.

Years ago, I set a deadline. If I'm still alone at 30, then I'm done. As the date gets closer I am starting to feel relieved. I can't spend the rest of my life alone. I can't do this anymore.

The only reason I haven't killed myself yet is my daughter. I am going to have to make a decision soon. If I do it now, she is young enough where she won't even miss me. Maybe she'll be better off.

I would suggest that you talk to a therapist.

Suicide solves nothing. Your daughter would miss you every birthday, every holiday, every graduation, every father's day, at her wedding, etc. You would always be missed. My biological father was a horrid, horrid man who died when I was very young. I didn't know him, and I grew up with everything I needed. I never felt like I was deficient in any way, but I would be lying if I said his absence from my life hasn't had an effect on my relationships with men. So, please take the advice of a fatherless daughter and nix that option.

Years ago, I felt much like this. I completely gave up on ever finding anyone. There was relief in "giving up" on the expectations, etc. I think giving up allowed me to focus on the wonderful things that were a part of my life, and I stopped thinking about what I thought was missing. Somehow, that made me really happy... and then, in time, I met my husband.

I'm sorry you're hurting. I hope I helped.

Suicide is not the answer. Thinking your daughter won't miss you is just a lie out of sorrow. That's your girl and she'd always love you no matter how old she or you got.

Nice guys don't always finished last. In a world that is shallow and superficial; usually relying on what lays on the surface instead of the underlying qualities, it can be hard to find someone to love, whether your intentions are good or not.

I think all your qualities are wonderful. Your personality is one I think any woman would like to stand by for the rest of her life. The "bad-boy" type or, "player" type of guy that girls usually find attractive is just a superficial attraction that won't last.

Not all woman are that way though. I definitely don't think that way at all. I don't think you should give up hope. People are not meant to be alone, especially you. I think your a guy who definitely deserves the loving family he pictures.

But for now, don't take it too seriously. Love comes when it's ready. It doesn't mean that you have to stop looking completely, but don't get so worried over that you get into a state of depression. Spend time with your daughter, and look for other things as well. Have confidence when meeting woman and be exactly who you are.

Don't give up! and God bless.