The way to tell her this is to get a ring and then find a time of the day when you will see each other. After you say hi and everything, you reach into your pocket and get the ring, get down on one knee and then show her the ring and say (her name), will you marry me?
If she accepts then youre on your way. If not, then both of you will have found out now and you can move on quickly, so its really a win win. Yes there is emotion either way but this is how its done.
If her parents approve you can get an informal court marriage and then plan for the wedding ceremony at a later time, although thats risky; depending on your family you arrange a wedding and wait for the ceremony to end, this next step is called the honeymoon where the newly wedded couple go somewhere private and close the bedroom door.
marriage is the best way, its what our bodies are designed for, weddings are a part of life, if you won the lottery and hired the smartest people to find out whats the best way to have sex, the answer is what I explained, you get married